Just Maybe... I've been busy

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Just Maybe... I've been busy
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 5:22pm

Busy may just be a understatement. I worked two jobs in a mall during Christmas and to top it off the last week I worked 110 hours in the mall. Hats off to the kids for getting themselves up and off to school on time that week. YEAH! I've got some good kids here. Well, my ex helps out a lot during the holidays and his factory is shut down for almost two weeks after Christmas and he wanted the kids and I needed some rest. We do this every year. This year instead of sleeping that week away I dated. I went out with quite a few guys in one week. I did too manage to have more than one date in a day. I too managed not to have sex with all of them. Way to go me. That sounds bad but considering that is all I was looking for a couple of months ago. I did good. I think I found one. I met most of them off the internet and talked to them during my busy life and met most of them during that week. Some of them got taken off the list while I was on the phone with them. I found out what I definatly don't want and there are certian ways I'll sware I'm a guy. I had one guy after we had lunch and a couple of phone conversations asked me where I saw it going. Scare me off. What was he thinking. I know I don't want someone with alot of drama in thier life and I darn sure don't want someone who wants to introduce me to their kids right away and then wonder why they have emtional problems. Some of the guys were nice but as much as a nice guys sounds good I need someone who thinks and can take my humor and a little poking at. I'm a scarcastic person and I can take it as well as give it out. My mom tells me I need someone smart or I'll just get bored with them. I never thought of it like that but I guess she might be right. I think more so than I need a brain I need someone with a witt and a thinker. Someone I can debate things with and discuss things with. Certian things I knew I wanted was a guy who was divorced and who had kids and didn't want anymore. I don't care how perfect a guy may be I'm not having anymore kids. Not that I can't I just don't want anymore. So I was doing all this online dating and talking to or IM a ton of guys the guys that strikes me is the one I met in the mall at the jewerly store.

I kinda need reeled in from this one. Just a little bit. He came in to buy something for his daughter and mom. He had a whitt and I had fun with it a bit. I got trouble because I must have been having too much fun. Oh no fun at the jewerly store. He told me he would come back and see me next week and I told him I'd see him tomorrow. I'll be darned he came in the next day. He bought me a drink and by that I mean a mocha bev from the coffee shop and gave me his number. He stopped by a couple of times and I chatted with him and he bought Cinnabons Yeah. He for the most part was just a nice guy and we went out to dinner the next week. I had a built in out being as my mom was dropping by a dresser to me at 9pm but I was not ready for that date to end. He called and we talked. He told me he appericated that I could talk a mile a minute and he could keep up. We went out again and now we are talking everyday. My ex is an ass. While we were out shopping my ex gets mad and tells me he is dropping the kids off at time A. So we leave the store and ex drops the kids off a half hour early and this guy is here. I can't hide a guy so I introduce him to the kids and then he leaves then I talk to the kids and they just wanted to play with thier toys. I tried they told me that was weird being as there is never anyone in my house but they were cool with it. I'm not moving him in here but I like this guy. I guess it is best to say I'm smitten with him. I keep trying to think of how to put that and that is the best I can come up with. He tried once to define things I told him to stop. I haven't known him too long and I don't want to define anything. Here is what I see for now. He is just up here for the next three months maybe more but he is a union worker that is up here doing some work on a factory that is getting repurposed. He will go back home and then it will be over. I'm not seeing marriage here but I have fun with this one. He makes me laugh. I love a guy who makes me laugh. He is not a bad looking guy and is nice helps me on with my coat, opens doors, carries bags, just so far nice. Kinda waiting for the other shoe to drop but having fun. I have got to appericate any man who can keep up with my mouth and I don't have to repeat things for. But I kinda wonder somethings like does he do this each time he goes somewhere? I don't think I want an answer to that one. I don't ask questions I don't want the answer to or better yet that I don't think I already know the answer to. We will see where this one goes. Are there any girls out there that can shed some light here? I'm asking because I've been out of this for awhile. Not sure what to do with this one.

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 7:51pm

Hoo boy! I wish I was a s busy as you! Okay, no, no I don't, but it sounds like you're having fun.

As far as Union Guy, let's just assume he wanted to continue some sort of thing after his job was finished- would you want to? Does he live so far away that it would be impossible? You don't have to answer these questions, you don't even have to think about them. You can just have fun. If that's all you want. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that being all you want, but don't fool yourself, since then you'll only be more hurt when it ends. If you want to consider pursuing more, consider it. If you don't, don't.

Either way, do what really will make you happy.

There's nothing wrong with being smitten, by the way. I sort of think it's in the air.

Moody


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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 9:20pm

Wow - you worked an incredible amount of hours. And you fit in a lot of dating - very good - sounds like you have stuff figured out.

With regards to this one, the union guy, it sounds like he is a lot of fun and makes you feel special.

I am not sure what you should do because I am not you. If you don't want any more kids you are not really in a rush for a relationship. So that is good - you have time.

I can say, from my own experience, that I want someone here in my hometown who is settled with their life. I have tried the long distance thing and it didn't work for me.

Maybe you can get a little more info before you get too intimate because once that happens the mind tends to go crazy with all of those questions - where DOES he go when he is not with you and what will happen when the job is done. I just don't do goodbyes very well. But that is just me.

Perhaps, too, you can just keep dating him and others and have fun for now - see what happens over time.