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| Wed, 05-04-2005 - 4:15pm |
my sons father is having another baby why this bothers me is because he hasn't had anything to do with our almost four year old since he was born. but hear he goes again i found out from his grandmother whom i take my son to see. he hasn't been with the girl long and there getting married next month. so my son will have a brother or sister that he will never know. and what right does he have to have another one when he doesn't want the one he already has. and i'm not sure how i'm going to tell ds when he asks why his father isn't around. he is going to want to know why he doesn't want him but wants his other child. plus he lives in ok while i live in nh. his grandmother pretty much told me if i wanted to terminate his rights he wouldn't fight. i wish it was that easy. why couldn't he have just jumped off a bridge or something. my dad told me that he is probley going to do the same thing to her that he did to me but i don't want that either i wouldn't wish for any child to go with out a father. but he probley will. quys shouldn't be alond to go around having children that they don't want. errrrrrrrrrrrr. very fustating.
Edited 5/5/2005 7:51 pm ET ET by dontknow2004

I do sympathize with you that this is all stinky stuff. I would feel very bad for ds if his father did not take his role in his life seriously and abandoned him in that manner.
I can also understand how watching him have another baby with another woman would make you want to feel bad.
But with all that said, you need to put these kaka thoughts out of your head. You need to be positive and strong for your son and not let him see what you are thinking for now. You have no control over what your ex does now. You only have control over your own life. It will be what you make of it.
I do hope that somehow you can forgive your ex and move on. It will bring you an inner peace and allow you to have a better life. Hopefully you will meet someone who deserves you and your son and who brings sunshine into your life.
No matter where you are now, it can always be worse. Try to be thankful for what you have. You have a nice son and you have total control over him. While it would be better that his dad would take an interest, at least he does not cause him harm. And there is always the chance he will play a role in the future.
I hope I don't sound too harsh - we all need to hear the right thing and I think this is good for you.
Good luck and keep us posted. Better days will be ahead for you.
So really, if your son's father is not in the picture why tell your son anything about this new baby? This way he wont question why father lives w new kid and not him. when he askes about his father tell the minimum : he lives elswhere.
Hugs....
This is so fun that you guys are in NH - I just booked a mini summer vacation up there at Weirs Beach!! It looks like so much fun - roller coaster, train ride, board walk, beach, waterslide, drivein movies, lake and more. I am doing Timberman - the half ironman race in August and am bringing my ds and friends.
You live in a GORGEOUS area!!!!!!!!!!
Judy,
When in August?