Just nosy Get-To-Know-You Questions

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Just nosy Get-To-Know-You Questions
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 10:50am
Are you guys all online during the day at work? What do you do? Do you work regular hours? What are your child/day care arrangements?? What type of visitation arrangements do your children have with their other parent? I'm nosy to see what everyone else has done.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 11:25am

Hello!! And thanks for asking about us!!

I have a home office - and my own business - I work 7 days a week - but with a flexible schedule - love it - wouldn't have it any other way. I have a babysitter that comes to my house - she is a godsend - helps me with errands, shopping, cooking and DS.

Visitation is a complete change every week. My ex and I have a calendar on my website - he enters the days he wants to see ds which depends on his travel schedule. Sometimes he will take him 3 times a week and sometimes he will be gone for weeks - no rhyme or reason to it. I have family and plenty of sitters so I don't care or pay attention - and that works best. It is great, though, because he takes him for half of every weekend. We seem to be working well together right now. I don't have expectations or tell him what to do - only what does or doesn't work for me and he has a real interest in DS - I think he sees that it is his loss if he doesn't.

It is great to see what everyone else is doing. I am curious, too!!

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Registered: 03-04-2005
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 12:46pm

Hi guys!

I live with my parents along with my children, just as you do tupper. I'm just finishing school this summer so my schedule is patchy and I'm actually home a lot of the time. My ex takes the kids for regular hours on Sunday, MOnday, and Tuesday adding up to 2 (12 hr) days total. He works at night and those are his days off. We have changed it once when his schedule changed. We get along so we change things as we need or want to regardless of what's in our contract. My mother is used to watching my kids when I go to school so she is one of my babysitters. I needed to get regular coverage for when I start work soon so I asked my mother to take Th and Fri, which she was fine with. Then I arranged for my ex mom in law to take the kids on Wed. So I should be covered when I go to work but I"m still a little nervous because my ex mil is kind of flighty in some ways. She doesnt seem to totally get the idea that I need her to watch them EVERY Wed. I'm lucky in some ways because the job I just got is very flexible in hours. I tell them what hours I want to work and they'll set up my schedule that way. Oh, also the girls are going to preschool 2 days a week but this has me a little on edge too because , other than my ex, I'm the only one with 3 carseats in my car!

I'm in the same position as you as far as looking for a place to live. I live in upstate NY and we are booming here, real estate wise. It is so scary to me because it's incredibly expensive to live here and you don't always get that much for it. Ppl are building mansions- yes mansions- in areas where the school district is totally ghetto. It's crazy.

Amy

Amy

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 12:49pm

Hi!
I only work part-time (9-1) right now, but I work in Customer Service doing alot of inside sales work. I hate it though. I'm looking.

My kids' dad sees them on his 3-day and 5-day breaks usually. He's a federal firefighter so his schedule is 24 on 24 off, and he lives in a different town. So when he has 3 days in a row off, which is usually every other week, he takes the kids. Then on his 5 days, and sometimes he expands those to a week off and takes them for a week, like he will in July.

the only real bummer about that schedule is it rarely gives me weekends without the kids, which is of course the time when you'd like to have some alone time. but we manage.

I forget what else your questions were so hopefully I got most of them.

Tara

 

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 1:11pm
I wish you luck in your job search, Tara!! It is good to see your post!!
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 2:22pm

I work full-time but I am not paid by the hour so I have flexibility to make my own schedule and work from home when the kids are sick. But I am usually at work from atleast 10-5. As long as I get my work done that's all that matters, so during quiet moments, I'll log on to see what's going on on the boards.

I drop my kids off at school in the morning, and they spend a few hours at the YMCA in the afternoons- this is usually study/homework time, gym time, or time to hang out with friends and do crafts/activities etc. When I get home we have dinner, we do some chores, we do something fun, we take the dogs for a walk and then we go to bed.

My dd spends every other weekend with her dad from Fri- Sun and also every Wednesday he picks her up from school and they have dinner together. He will also come to special events, school meetings, etc... he is very involved. SO's kids spend the same every other weekend with their mom, and she gets them for dinner on Tuesdays. So... SO and I get every other weekend to ourselves. Tues is free me-time night for him and Wed is free me-time night for me. It works really well.

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Registered: 03-31-2005
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 10:26pm

Count me in on the living-with-my-parents club! I'm also a student, I'll finish up my degree in Statistics and Actuarial Science in three more semesters. However, I'm taking the summer off from classes for a full-time internship in systems support. Not related to my major, but good experience with a great company, and the possibility of full time employment after graduation keeps my options open. I just started on Tuesday, and the 7:30am-4pm schedule is taking some adjustment. It's about a 20 min drive, so I have to get up at 5am to make myself presentable, get my daughter going, and leave the house at 6:50. This is also the first time my daughter has had to stay at daycare all day long. Somehow I got into the most sought after daycare in town, and it's comforting that she wants to stay and play even when it's time to go home. I'll have classes again in the fall and work hours will cut down to 20 a week. The other parent is nonexistent by mostly my choice, which worries me some days. I don't want him around, but I don't want her to ever feel unwanted, something I'm struggling with.

Lindsay

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 10:42pm
I'm an accountant and I work full-time. DD is about to finish preschool, she has summer camp (daycare) all summer and she'll be in kindergarden in the fall. My ex and I have 50/50 custody, and dd is with me every other Friday pm to Friday am. Once per week the parent she's not living with that week will pick her up from school and take her out to dinner so she doesn't have to go a whole week not seeing one of her parents.

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