Just talked with Psyc- THANK GOD

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Just talked with Psyc- THANK GOD
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:03pm

he is completely on the same page as I am (& all of you!).


He returned my call from last nite & said "I completely agree with your assessment of the situation. That was the most painfully distrubing display of parental weakness & selfishness, that I have ever had to sit through & listen to. It was a Character study of sorts,

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:48am
Exactly, there would be no message boards/Blogs anywhere if there was really a problem with this.

April

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:59am

For you and Avery, I was hoping a miracle had taken place and that Taz may have turned himself around, but I see nothing miraculous has happened.

I think in the long run Avery will find what her dad is like on her own. I think a lot of us here have seen our children find this out. It's tough on kids when they lose the innocence they have towards parents and see what kind of people they really are. My daughters has been going through that lately. Actually she told me the other day that if her dad does not like her the way she is.....oh well. She sees him, but still can't talk to him about things, and it's like I told her, sometimes that's best. Talk to the people you are comfortable talking with and just have fun with dad.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:50pm

Yes, psyc said he ABSOLUTELY will be talking to him about it.


I wont be at all the supervised visits. Im sure eventually I wil be out of there (which i want!) ... but i am glad he DID have me there, so that there is proof for the psyc what he is like.


& i pray that someday Averey WILL get to that point to be able to say that to him.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:55pm

Again, I truly really love to see your input, b/c you are one of the few people in the world i know who REALLY know what its like to deal with this 1st hand - since your kids father is very similair pysc-wise.


Someone said something to me that I think you will agree with - in re: to my allowing the short visits, & about talking to her about what he says.


Exhausting as it is... I believe that you are doing the right thing.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:59pm

No such luck Emma. & Lord knows, it WOULD be a miricale!


I know she will find out on her own --- she already is. Little by little. & as i just posted below, thats one of hte reasons I am letting the short supervised visits take place. She can be safe (relatively) & only exposed to his crap, in short periods. & then little by little she will see , as she grows & matures, that he really CANT hold him self together, & she can start to accept that.


Im glad to hear your dd is coming into that attitude. Thats the attitude we should all have with ALL the men in our life ..... "This is ME, take it or leave it, but Im not going to change for you AND Im not going to listen to you putting me down BECAUSE of who I am!"

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 1:13pm

I think it's unfair to expect an attorney (or medical or IT person) to know everything about all specialties.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 1:48pm

I do understand what you are saying and that you are concerned but I honestly agree with RLCH here--if this were a problem iV wouldn't have message boards, there would be no blogs or message boards anywhere.

April

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 2:06pm

Thank you.



If someone doesn't agree with what & how someone is posting, its a public forum, everyones opinion is welcome, as it is everyones right to post about their own situations, in the way they see fit. But that doesnt necessarily mean someone is wrong, on either side. Not everyone is so

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 2:12pm

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 2:17pm

If someone doesn't agree with what & how someone is posting, its a public forum, everyones opinion is welcome, as it is everyones right to post about their own situations, in the way they see fit. But that doesnt necessarily mean someone is wrong, on either side. Not everyone is so

April