Just an update

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Registered: 04-09-2006
Just an update
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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 3:36pm

Just updating on my relationship at work. Things are going well. Didn't go find her or talk to her too much since we had our major conversation on where I stood in her life but today we did speak on the phone. I basically asked how things were going and we discussed what she had been doing recently. I told her that I didn't want her to leave with things on a sour note and that I had found a bar right by my house that had shuffleboard in it which she likes to play. Told her despite the fact that she thinks she is good, I thought I could take her. She wasn't sure about her schedule this week but I told her that if she wanted to get together for lunch and some shuffleboard that would be good. She told me I sounded different and I told her that I was the same guy she gave her number to a month ago. The last two and a half weeks were not me, they were this guy with his own perception of reality and that I was unhappy with that. I think she noticed the change in me. I am no longer in pursuit of a relationship with this woman but it has taken some time. (Moody it is hard to supress those feelings). I just want to return to being myself and I think I can do that. I told her the going away party would be fun but it is impersonal (not that I wanted a date) and I just thought it would be fun to get some food and play some shuffleboard on her day off. She said "we will work things out". I had offered to buy her some lunch (she could pay me back of course) early in the conversation but she said no thanks. At the end of the 45min phone conversation she said
hey, thanks for offering me lunch, thats very nice of you, I appreciate it". Oh, and yes moody, I text her about something at work and then she called and we broke into conversation, so yes, I initiated. I did ask how her daughter did last week in softball, how the brake light thing on her car was, just the little things and conversation was very light. I'd say mark one up on the board for us, I think we are friends, good ones at that.

Aces

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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: acesfull78
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 4:59pm

I'm glad you're happy Aces. That letting go thing is the hardest part.

:)

--snow

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: acesfull78
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 7:35pm

Aces, it's great that you can have a good friendship come of all of this!

I think the fact that she noticed the difference is good, it's showing that she can be your friend, and that she is perceptive enough to notice when you're pushing for more, and when you're genuinely interested in her friendship.

So, all in all, I'd say it looks like you've found a great friend, and that's good, since we all need friends.

Moody- who's wrestled with her own feelings all weekend, and needs to take a page from your book!


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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: acesfull78
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 6:11am

Hey Aces,

Glad to see you drop by with your update. Sounds like you two will be friends and that is good. I know it is hard to let go as Snow points out. But you are doing just fine.

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