Just Venting!!!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Just Venting!!!
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 6:24pm

Every so often I get frustrated with my BF.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: isysmoon
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 6:47pm

Well, then schedule the time with him and let him know that you're only available from 10-2 on sat.... I think he's just taking advantage of the fact that he knows you'll be open all weekend for him, at his beck & call so to speak.


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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: isysmoon
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 6:54pm

Actually I've taken a second job which will take up Saturday mornings from 8-12 and it's going to take up one of our evenings that we have during the week.


I just feel that after TWO YEARS it wouldn't be like that.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: isysmoon
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 7:05pm

Hey Isys-


I feel ya!! And I understand. I've had similiar situatiuons happen before and it makes me feel resentful and sometimes a bit angry. I mean, I do the same thing. With BE when we had

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: isysmoon
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 7:18pm
OH heck yeah we "discussed" it yesterday.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: isysmoon
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 7:28pm
I don't know what to say except I understand your irritation - quality time is a big biggee for me as well. It seems that whenever you get mad you always find a resolution. Maybe you can get him in the habit of making plans a week ahead of time so he is more ready when you are?
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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: isysmoon
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 7:32pm
it's just not as big a priority for him so from now on I'm going to take my time doing things after work such as going to the gym and of course I'm teaching Monday nights for the next 7 weeks.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: isysmoon
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 7:51pm
Have you explained how much it means to you? I agree you should stay busier and not just wait around.
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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: isysmoon
Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:01am

Yes and he downplays it because I'm super stressed right now.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: isysmoon
Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:29am

I just had a thought - can you take your exh to court for the medical bills? I would do that if I thought it was substantial and I could get it.

Sounds like you have found a way to get more stable with the finances - and that is good - but maybe right now you have to adjust to the new schedule? I think he will in time - you have done very well in the past with him. I have faith in you!! LOL!! :-)

Sorry you have to go through all of this.

Have you made any progress on the wedding plans? I was thinking that has to help with the finances and the time eventually? What are your thoughts on all of that now? How do you feel?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: isysmoon
Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:40am

We're not planning a wedding!! LOL.

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