just when I thought it was all ok

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just when I thought it was all ok
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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 4:50pm

a friggen bomb drops in my lap this morning that my ex never signed the quit claim deed on the house ( I was awarded the homestead in the divorce and I thought that was enough because it

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 5:46pm
Marybeth,

I can't remember if you are on good terms with your ex or not. Will he sign the quit claim deed if you ask him to? It would be just a matter of the escrow company meeting with him and getting him to sign and notarize. In other words, if he's willing to cooperate, it shouldn't be a huge process.
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Wed, 10-20-2004 - 9:53am

Not on good terms at all!


It took over 3 years to get divorced because he was so difficult. The house is in my name and my fathers which was purchased 2 months after I married my ex. His credit was so bad he was not able to be put on the mortgage so my dad helped us out. Well it turned out that my ex couldnt hold a job for more than a 6 month time frame during the marriage - I was the bread winner and that often wasnt enough so the marriage was full of financial crisis - bankruptcy in 98' and my ex would continue to buy things with my name as a backer and in the end he still couldnt keep a job. He left me for someone else-- moved 2 hours away and I have been unable to pay off his debts so my wages started getting garnished for all of this. Right now over 700 a month is being taken from my paychecks. My goal with the divorce was to prove he does not deserve any of the equity in the house because of all the money that we owe my parents (over 40,000)

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Wed, 10-20-2004 - 10:29am
Big hugs MB

I know this is a big bump in your road. I wish I had some stellar advice to give on how to fix this. I will send lots of positive thoughts your way, hope this can get resolved quickly.

Try to hang in there!

Hugs

T

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 10:42am
I'm so sorry that your ex is a big jerk. He sounds like my ex. Mine would have done exactly the same thing. Geez, I'm awfully sorry. Things should get better with time. My ex dragged me to court every chance he got and refused to sign papers. We've been divorced since 2000 (after a 2-3 yr divorce proceeding). Only now, does he seem okay with the divorce. He's still a jerk, but hasn't taken me to court in over a year (knock on wood).

I hope things work out so you can sell your house. That is completely and utterly unfair.

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 10:42am
Oh dear!! How stressful. I am praying that you can somehow get your ex to sign that quick claim deed without too much ado and that this is a little bump. But I can see how it could be a big bumpity bump.

I know I had a time of it for refinancing my house because my ex refused to subrogate his lien to the new mortgage company (he had a small lien on my house as part of the divorce settlement). To make a long story short, after a battle he did sign the paper. But that taught me a lesson and I paid him off so I have full title and can access equity in an emergency. In the end it worked out okay but I was very frustrated in the process.

I wish you godspeed with this. Hopefully you can come up with an easy sweet presentation that won't ruffle his feathers and he will think nothing of it and put his John Hancock on that deed!! I guess your second option is to get the lawyer and be mean and firm....

Keep us posted!!

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Wed, 10-20-2004 - 11:03am

I have NO words of wisdom at all. This is completely out of my realm of experience.


I've only a big hug and some good chocolate for your frustration (((((MB)))))

Becky

Becky

 

 

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 12:08pm

Can you try the hysterical ex wife approach?

Kim

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 3:25pm

MB, I'm so sorry!

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Sun, 10-24-2004 - 8:18pm
Marybeth,

Just wondering if you got this resolved? Just thinking bout ya!

Hugs

Tara