Just when I was giving up...

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Just when I was giving up...
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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 7:56pm

This whole dating things pretty much sucks. I was ready to throw in the towel.

I was getting lots of interest on Yahoo Personals but with the emailing and not hearing back from people for days/weeks it's just frustrating. I know the whole OLD thing is being one in many for a race but there is nothing worse to me then to feel like the runner up....I mean if you're interested then BE interested. blah blah blah...whine whine whine....

So “M” from Yahoo Personals emails me back and forth and calls one night at about 9:30. I had crashed at 8 and why I answered the phone I'll never know. In my sleep haze I had no idea who it was on the phone and I think he was really embarassed (profuse apologizing). So I don't hear from him for a week and decide to send a message that just said hello, maybe we can meet up on mesesnger. Well things have progressed, there was a delay in an email he had sent and we figured it out and he called (at a pre-designated time) on Friday night. We talked for 2 hours and probably would have gone on longer had my little one not woke up. Saturday we texted, emailed and then he called and we spoke for nearly 2 hours again. Last night we texted, emailed and spoke until almost 1 in the morning. Conversation is great, lots in common BUT a couple of things, FIRST he’s 10 years my senior…that’s IF he put the correct age.

Second, the conversation last night got into his definition of love which was incredibly different from my own. He believes in that rapturous love that ends in disaster with all the fluerish and pretense that goes along with that. I, on the other hand, not only do not believe that but doubt people who believe that as “love”. BUT honestly, that was the only thing I can fault him for right now. He had been barbecuing last night and it was his last night before his son came home from a long trip so he had also been drinking a bit to enjoy his last evening, so I’m sure that it played into a bit of over dramatics….god knows that’s how I get.

As far as his looks, they’re not exactly my type but we get along so well via phone that I’m willing to see what he’s like in person before making any judgments. Actually when I was describing our conversations with my best friend I actually got a little bit of butterflies….and I like that.

So this is progress, we’ll see if I ever make it past a second date. 

In other new…I move on Saturday! Just did the walk-through today and it’s gorgeous. My mother bought a condo so I could take care of her mother. It will be me, the girls and my grandma and it’s brand new construction with all new appliances. I never thought I could be so excited about a new fridge in my whole life!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 7:45am
Congrats on your move and new condo - and on finding someone interesting from OLD! He sounds nice so far. A lot of people define love as what they feel when they are in the infatuation stage - perhaps because it is so strong - while many of us define it as the companionate love that develops over time. Why not have both? LOL!! Can't wait to hear the story about you meeting him. Thanks for sharing your update with us. Keep us posted, okay?