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karaoke and relationship update
| Sun, 08-03-2008 - 11:13am |
This post is two fold.... the karaoke results - i didn't win... bummed. And an update on Sexy Country Singer Chris. I thought i'd feel better this morning but i'm still trying to put things in perspective. Remember i wrote that i invited Chris and Josh. The good news is that they CAME. I was surprised, frankly. But I think there was some miscommunication when i invited them. From their pov, I

Great update- sounds like a ton of fun!
I wouldn't worry too much about Chris, let him keep his panties in a bunch!
The only thing that jumped out with alarm about your post was "so... new plan... i will be more friendly \ flirty with him next time..."
When I was 19 I worked at a gas station. I was the WORST flirt! After I split from A, I was still working there, but suddenly single and all the guys knew it- suddenly I was getting all these "propositions" from married/ attached men. Took me a LONG time to figure it out, why I couldn't get a good guy who wasn't already attached asking me out... until I had my AHA! moment. And then I realized that it was because all I was "offering" was a flirty seduction of sexual innuendos, not my full self.
My point being- that you don't need to FLIRT to bring a man to the table. Be your bubbly, fun self!
hmmm... i suppose that's a good point about flirting, Alison. This new singer should get a nickname too (cuz i have a feeling i'll see him at future contests). I think he does sing better than me.. he won 3rd place at the last contest when i was 6th.... But i was impressed that he remembered me from the last one.. Honestly, i remember seeing him sing, but he said we talked. And i don't remember that.... shame on me, but i guess he didn't leave a memorable impression when we talked. Hmmmmm, how about his nickname can be Hottie3 aka ACDC singer. lol
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I think you nailed it in your post back to cutefont the other day:
"Also, the book swears that if a guy IS into you, he won't let you get away... i found that both encouraging and disappointing... it kinda means that i dont' have control over whether i'll get the guy.. at least not direct control. The only control we, as women, have is to live a happy, fullfilled lives, getting out there so the guy who will be into us, will eventually run into us, bump into us, see us, whatever..."
Being ourselves ensures that a guy is truly interested in US, and not just because we're flashing sexual innuendos their way.
Save the innuendos for when you're in a relationship and watch the look on their face when you're out together and you whisper in his ear all the naughty things you'll do to him when you get home...
You were perfectly friendly and accommodating; they were the ones acting rude. I think it would be wrong for you to try harder and enable that behavior. It may have had nothing to do with you. They were out of their element and perhaps uncomfortable so they chose to go somewhere they felt more at home. When I walked in, I felt out of place and I am way older than those boys. It was very much the senior crowd last night (which is great but I sorta regretted the outfit I chose. Oops) The polite thing would have been for them to come over and join the group but they chose to be stand-offish.
I am sorry you didn't win this time but we all agree you are great and it is just a matter of time before you do. I think the crowd last night just preferred the classics (hee hee) Oh gosh!! I must have given some of them heart failure with my rendition of "Settlin" with all the hip shaking. Oh well...as you could tell, we can always have fun!!
It sounds like it was a blessing that those two left if they could not choose to support you and have a good time on their own - because that might have messed up your performance! Are they good friends? Or just acquaintances? If they mean a lot you might mention that you noticed they were annoyed just to see what they say?
"But i told myself, i'm not responsible for someone else's good time. (the codependent side of me think that)."
GOOD stuff!
Sorry you didn't win - but it sounds like you entertain everyone quite well and you enjoy what you do. I think one of these days you are going to enjoy singing the right song to the right crowd and then you will walk away with a prize. I give you kudos for getting up there to sing - I would never do that - I am a terrible singer and hate to be in front of an audience!! LOL!!
The meetup thing sounds good too - you have quite a good beginning to have so many show up - I bet it will grow and grow!
How fun that msmsavvanah got a night out too!!
Oh, i'm not going to try harder with Chris and Josh... i may still think of them as friends or more like colleges in the karaoke scene, and i won't be rude.. but also i'm not going out of my way for them... They were complaining about many things last night, come to think of it... you are prob right.
I'm glad you had fun... the dancing was great. I'm glad you enjoy karaoke too. Too fun!!
I appreciated that after the contest, the group stayed to help me pick my next song.... it was encouraging. And after watching the video today, it was like a sports training thing.. ya know, where you see your performance and then can see where to improve and what's working.. etc.. how very helpful. The Britney one actually isn't as bad as i thought... hmmm. i may consider it. Ya know me, i'll decide prob at the last minute. Shania or Britney.. hmmm.
Also, heard from hottie2 today. it was a quick how was your weekend. so, it's not a complete ghosting but perhaps a little backing off... hmmmm.. we'll see, but i'm NOT sweating it. I'm enjoying life too much right now...
Loonybunny
i'm NOT sweating it. I'm enjoying life too much right now
There ya go!