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| Thu, 07-10-2008 - 3:36pm |
OMG OK...so CP calls today at my office in tears (yes again) and tells me how he needs to talk to me and i agree to call him back since i was really busy at the time. So i give it a good 45 and call back...TBH answers and hangs up on me LOL....OHHHHHH TO FUNNY. SO i call his cell and hes all upset. They have broken up and she refuses to leave the house. She tells him if he calls the police on her she'll tell them he punched her and punch herself...LOL OH GOD....so he crys some more and tells me hes being evicted as of tuesday what is he going to do? He can put some things in storage but would i like any of them...MY THINGS...that he and TBH have been using. Instead of them going to waste and risking losing them and having to start from scratch he wants to save what he can in case he gets a new place...I say yes i know how difficult it is to start over...DID IT A**HOLE. So then i ask about his DS11...what is he going to do? can he spend the summer with his bio-mother (who i wouldnt let have any part of his life when i was there because she was such a LOWLIFE DRUNK) he says no he cant see her she under investigation with child services. Seems she got into a fight with the new bf and he beat the crap out of her in front of him and hes a witness for the state now. My heart broke for this little boy. I rasied him as mine and his father and TBH poisoned him against me and now he just glares at me when i drop off DD for visists. SO against my better judgement i give him all the numbers for emerg services and social services and explained it not a gesture of kindness towards him but for his children and he needs to get his head out of his a$$ and be a good father because hes a really sh***y one anymore. He cried and said im so sorry for all of the suffering i put you through and i miss you...balh blah blah i said you always miss me when you two fight...he went on to tell me he was his best when he was with me...i said really thats not how it uses to play out..i was the to controlling bit** remember??? No i was wrong...blah blah blah...he then tells me how shes nuts and to young for him and i told him he better wake up because he is out of control and about to lose everything. Then he tells me the reason TBH hates me so much is because when they fight he compares her to me and how she doesnt even come close...LOL Boy what they wont say to get what they need.

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You go girl!!! Keep this frame of mind up.
I can't believe what this "man" is doing. I'd like to know if you said yes to having furniture etc would he expect it back when he has somewhere else to live? I bet he would! As for asking if you want the bed he & bimbo have been sleeping in !
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To all thank you...i really appreciate all of the encouragement. I did some soul searching this weekend and it hit me. The anger came and im free of him and is guilt. I had an amazing day on the beach with DD and it all came flooding in. DD got knocked over by a wave and came running to me and squealed and called me by our nicknames for each other and i got so sad for her that he hasnt been around to creat any memories or nicknames and he never will. I was hurt before because "I" felt abandoned by him but when it came time for him to abandon DD...well thats when i got pissed. Hes worthless to me now. He has absolutely no redeeming qualities what so ever. I used to say he loved his kids and that was one thing...but i cant even say that now. No loving parent would do what he has done. As far as the suitcase...would he have helped me in anyway if the shoe was on the other foot? I think not...he and TBH would have told me to F off and laughed. I have no sympathy...im maintaining a job, a new car, a house, utilitites, dd's daycare, clothing food all with out any help from him and he had a two person income household...its his turn to F off. Im not sad for him anymore...in his words he "disgusts me". Thanks again for all the words and support...
M Standing a little taller today!
Hugs, Mom-Star... and you hurt for the kids and their not having a decent dad, but the reality is, he ISN'T a good dad who is putting his children first. And they deserve better than that! Your DD is lucky to have YOU because you can compensate for his missing presence. I hope things work out for his DS though, as he doesn't have the mom to back him up.
I'm glad you had this turning point, as painful as it was... it's still a good step because you are learning to separate from the jerk, and not expect things from him that he can't provide. You won't be getting those doses of disappointment from him anymore once you stop expecting anything from him! You're on your way to finding happiness by getting HIM out of your heart!
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Bravo. Star.
Sooo cute about the beach and the nicknames- he will NEVER have that kind of bond with his daughter!
I don't know honey, we'll have to ask when he calls
Thank you for that. Never thought of putting it back on him. hes already stated time and time again when shes older hes going to tell her how i ruined everything and all the terrible things i did to him...LOL I just say OK you do that. I guess i lie to her because it breaks my heart to think of her not knowing where he is or why he is where he is and not a responsible part of her life.
Hey, it'll be a BLESSING if he fades into the background and you hear nothing from him!
I wouldn't go digging for more dirt, he's already shown his colours time and again, and there's enough documentation from the regular interactions with the guy that you don't need to stoop to HIS level.
Hey M...
I just wanted to share a little bit of thought that really got me through the sad moments when my dd used to ask why daddy does not live here anymore, etc.
It used to tear me up...I was ridden with an awful feeling for her. Then I found that I could ease her mind by telling her that daddy is OK, but mommy and daddy do things differently. No one can say why
Thank you for that spin on everything i.e. the employer and gossip. You are right about showing who he really is and i agree to not stooping. Thank you. And yes it will be a blessing if he fades away. That was my initial reaction to his news. I just quietly thought to myself now if he just goes away i can start to push for sole custody.
DD never got anything from CP to begin with so I wont even worry about future promised gifts. Im sure he'll manage to "miss" holidays and birthdays due to
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