kids and bedrooms

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Registered: 06-04-2004
kids and bedrooms
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 2:20pm
my bf and i are going to be moving in together in a few months and i'm not sure about what to do about bedrooms i might be over thinking this but anyway my son is three and my boyfriend has a 12 year old and a 13 year old the 13 year old lives 4 hours away he only brings her down here to stay a couple times a year and the 12 year is only over everyother weekend. we are moving into a three bedroom place i was thinking my ds should have the smallier room because the other two are older and there is two of them but now i think my ds should get the bigger room because the other two are not over very much and have rooms at their houses and this is my ds's only room. i haven't talked to my bf yet but i now that he won't give me his opinion he'll just leave it up to me i want to be fair and i don't want the girls to think i'm favoring my ds cause he is my son cause normally the older kids get the bigger room. i've never dating anyone with kids before i'm not sure what to do about it
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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 2:27pm
Your son should have the larger bedroom. He lives there and has all of his stuff there. He'll need the storage and a bigger place to play. The other kids just need a room with some beds for when they visit.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 4:38pm

ITA....


But also consider placement...where are the rooms?

Kim

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 4:51pm
It's hard to say without knowing the set up of the house, the definition of 'large' and 'small' and knowing the kids. But I would say when you are combining families it's best to involve everyone. Since your boyfriend won't have an opinion, what does the 12 year old say? She's old enough to understand the difference between ds being there all the time and her not being there all the time, and she's old enough to have an opinion on what makes sense to her. My guess is ds would be fine in either room. Will his stuff (bed, toy storage) fit nicely in the smaller room or does he seem to need the bigger one? Can you get two beds into the smaller room for both girls? Will they be comfortable in the smaller room, even if it's not a ton of time they are there?

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:04am

I think the way a room is decorated will matter more than the size. Give the biggest one to your 3 year old since he lives there all the time and will have more toys and stuff. But make sure the other room has the good looks and "creature features" - maybe a TV or computer or something really cool. I would try to give his kids a say in the matter for colors and stuff like that. You don't have to spend a lot to make it look like a lot.

Good luck. Are you the one getting engaged? Forgive but I know you have posted before and I cannot remember your story.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 12:11pm
nope not the one getting engaged but i have high hopes lol