Kids and secrets...

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Kids and secrets...
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 9:03am
I thought I could trust my 14 year old son to keep my secret about my crush. He's actually pretty good with secrets usually. Last night my ex-bf, D, whom I'm still friends with, had dinner with us. DS asked me, a little too loudly, if D knew about my crush! I gave him the meanest mommy look ever. D quickly said, "What did you say?" DS covered it up by lamely saying I had taken a brush of his. D didn't believe it, and kept hounding me and DS. Well, not hounding, just asking. DS did not repeat it, though. I think D heard it, and knows, and may be able to put two and two together, as he knows my crush. But he didn't say anything. I don't want him to know because well, he might let it slip, just to get back at me because I tell people how horrible his house is and what a packrat he is. Not in a mean way, just because people want to know why we broke up. Anyway, I was really embarrassed, but glad that DS didn't blurt out who the crush is on. I'm still going to kill the little bugger!
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 2:22pm

Kids do say the darnedest things, don't they?

My children are still too young to talk with about things that adult, but I don't think I'd ever tell them I had a crush on someone anyhow.

We do discuss dates and dating, but only in the general sense now, and dates are pretty common for us- me with them, them with grandma, me with my friends, them with their friends, and me with men. Well, only one man now, but you get the idea.

Hopefully your ex will let it drop and your son will never bring it up on front of company again.

Good luck!

Moody, without crushes or secrets, really


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 3:39pm

That is so typical of a kid. I guess you will have to give him the CIA type classified information briefing before you take him anywhere. At least he covered so cleverly - I mean thinking of brush that rhymes with crush is pretty clever!

Good luck with the new crush! Tell us more!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 10:06pm
Actually, the CIA thing was what I had in mind - "Hey, keep an eye on this guy and see how he acts around me." Not the best plan, but a plan. And it's not a new crush- just the same old crush that I've had for a few weeks now. But I'm just going with the flow (for the most part). He did tell me tonight that my new haircolor is beautiful - okay, so it wasn't, "You're beautiful", but I'll take what I can get, lol! Maybe absence will make the heart grow fonder, as I'll be in Ohio all next week?
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:44am

It really is hard to know where to draw the line.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 7:40am
Actually, DS and I have a nice relationship, very well-balanced between friendship and parent/son. I feel like opening up to him just a little will show him that he can talk to me about anything - and when the tough stuff comes up, I want him talking to me!