Kinda bummed!

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Kinda bummed!
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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 6:10pm

I am a bit bummed. I think I am being GHOSTED. I do not know what the deal is. FTL and I have been doing well. Staying in touch. We both got food poisoning and I did not hear much from him at all which I can understand. Then saturday..I heard NOTHING. Sunday..NOTHING. I even texted him sunday saying I am free would you like to get together and gave him a call. NO RESPONSE. Monday NOTHING. So I am not sure what to think. It is so odd. I do not want to pester. Its not like him. But then is it anything anyone expects when someone ghosts on you? I have never really had this happen so I do not know what to do ugh.


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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 7:13pm

That DOES suck!


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Registered: 11-22-2006
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 7:29pm
UGH is right - what is up with these men? I hope you hear from him very soon but honestly this does sound like ghosting and how frustrating for you because I know things were going well. All I can say is to try and just stay busy and be distracted with something - the waiting is the worst but as we all know with ghosting, after a while the waiting just turns into more waiting and then life takes over. I am hoping he calls though - I mean what kind of sense does it make for him to ghost on you right after the two of you had food poisoning?
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Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 8:58pm

ARGH!!!!! Why do men do this? Why do they play these games? I guess, in some weird way, they are doing us a favor. They obviously wouldn't be able to cope with something important if their operation procedure is to run away.

The first guy I dated post divorce at least had the courtesy to let me know by e-mail that it wasn't going to work. As down as I felt, the honesty let me move on so much easier.

I've had food poisoning...it doesn't usually last this long.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 9:12pm

"The first guy I dated post divorce at least had the courtesy to let me know by e-mail that it wasn't going to work."

See- that would help sooooo much if people just grew a backbone to do that sort of thing! Make life so much smoother!

The boy

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Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 10:11pm
And it probably took him, what, 35 seconds to do? Just a little courtesy goes a long way.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 11:19pm

Exactly!

I think the problem lies in the idea that the person is going to hound them for a reason... "But WHY???!!??" and no one wants to have to say, "cause you ____" so they just avoid it all together.

It's rude, but true.

The boy

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Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 6:59am

Any word from him yet? I think it this case it doubly sucks since the last time you heard from him he was sick. So now you have to worry about him too. I hope you hear from him soon. Unfortunately we are finding out there are a lot of men who arent men enough. I think this is a new thing. I never even heard of this happening back before I was married. If a guy was going to break up with you they just broke up, there was no disappearing.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: cutefont
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 12:00pm

read the book "He's just not that into you"...LOL.. how did the author put it something like "guys will do anything and everything NOT to come out and say they are not interesetd. Instead they do strange things" and then the author proceeds to give examples...


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Registered: 10-01-2007
In reply to: cutefont
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 1:11pm

I will never ever understand the whole ghosting thing.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cutefont
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 4:36pm
Ghosting soooooo BITES!!!!!