Ladies, I am sorry . I need help!
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Ladies, I am sorry . I need help!
| Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:29am |
My love, the man that I dated for five years, is now getting married. I am spinning. I need help. This is not right. I don't want to call my family at this hour. I am not a baby. I am 36, I should be able to proceses this but, I am really struggling. Anyone?

Well, if you hang around here you will find that we all have the goal of finding the right guy who is really into us. If this one is getting married to someone else he is certainly not the right person for you. It matters more that you find someone who really likes you rather than just you really liking him. Because you can't make someone like you. And if a guy doesn't like you - it is NOT about you. There is nothing wrong with you - you are simply not the one for him.
His getting married is upsetting, I can tell from what you write. And I am sorry you have to have this pain. But the good and the silver lining in this cloud is that you can take the time to get over his loss. Move on. And find the love of your life. Get out there socially, maybe try a little online dating. Fix yourself up and get out of the house. Because MrRight is not going to come to your house looking for you. He is going to find you when you are really happy.
Welcome to our board - hope this helps. The others will chime in, too. I think we have all had a crush or love that ended up liking someone else better. That is just the way it is.
Hi and (((hugs)))
It doesn't matter how old you are - it still hurts. Honestly, time is the thing that will heal your pain. You need to keep yourself busy and treat yourself kindly for a while until time's healing magic starts to kick in.
A few years ago, someone I loved chose another woman over me. I thought my world was coming to an end. I was a complete wreck. But, guess what? Here I am, stronger than ever, and in a great relationship with a wonderful man, who is right for me.
Everything happens for a reason, and although right now you have no idea why this has happened, I PROMISE you, one day, you will know, and you will be counting your blessings!
In the meantime, we're all here to talk and to try and help you get through this difficult and sad time.
Clem xx
Welcome. I don't have any huge words of wisdom here, but if you truly loved him, try to find a sense of happiness for him.
It's okay to be hurt that things didn't work out for the two of you, but you must press on. He wasn't right for you, for whatever reason, and has moved on.
Grieve the loss of this relationship, but try to get past the grief. At this point, it isn't going to help you. Find a new hobby, do something just for you, act a little selfish, and fake it until you make it.
Good luck, and keep us posted.
Moody, hoping the spinning settles for you
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