Ladies.. keep me strong!!
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| Fri, 11-07-2008 - 6:30am |
Ok, I almost didn't make a separate thread for this, but I'm afraid this could be an ongoing thing.
So, I posted about Irish and how romantic he is, my drive by kiss, our awesome birthday date, and that fact that I'm consuming his mind. Irish is Mr. Long Term Relationship.. I'm the 5th woman he's ever kissed, and he's just coming out of this 15 year relationship. AND remember on our first date he made the comment about how he may need to date around? Well.. yah reality is here.
It was a pipe dream to think that I'd actually find this great guy at this point in his life and him NOT need/want to date around lol. Anyway we talked more last night and he has dates with several women that he planned before my birthday. He said he feels like he NEEDS to date.. but he does not really want to. He says that he worries about just jumping in with me like he always does in relationships, and wants to make sure that he does it right this time. He said he wasn't even sure if he'd be able to survive these dates because I just consume his thoughts so much.
Anyway.. as much as I don't want to admit it.. he really does need to date, and I don't want to just jump in with mr. long term relationship because he's sweet and safe. It would really be way to easy to just melt into it all.
This all actually feels very honest, open, and adult. Although I did tell him I don't want to know any more about his dating around. Lol.. I can just see me now if I knew he had a date one night.. sigh! And you know me.. I'll guess anyway and send him some text msg like "close your eyes" just to sabotage LOL. I totally believe that he is doing back flips for me, but then again I totally understand his need to date. Blah it sucks!
I gotta let this guy breathe ladies, and with him being so super wonderful it'll be hard. So keep me strong!

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You're doing good and you are right, the man needs to keep these dates.
You are absolutely doing the right thing! You can't hold on to someone by trying to tie them down, it dosen't work because he will always wonder what he may have missed out on.
Bottom line: If it was meant to be, you will end up together. The best way to hold on to someone is to set them free.
If its meant to be ...
Ok, Im actually GLAD to hear this b/c i didnt want you getting totally sucked in & infaturated (ok, you already ARE! LOL) w/ him only to have him, down the line, realize the need to date.
I completely agree with Rlch.
Yep, I wasn't goign to see anyone else because he really has grabbed my attention the past two weeks but I think its best that I continue to date as well just to keep my mind from focusing on him to much. So, I answered a few POF emails today.
Irish and I are good though.. we're going out monday and making plans hmm 2-4 weeks from now so thats promising.
I have to say that I love the idea that everyone has to live up to me now. Because I've been telling myself for a
Irish does sound like a great guy..... it is good that he experience dating some more - that'll just show him how awesome YOU are.
"Dammit I am awesome.. what the hell is wrong with these guys?"
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Michelle--
You ARE strong!!! And you are wise to listen to Irish without harsh judgment or defensiveness. I give props to Irish to being honest. And I can understand the need to date a bit before committing long term to anyone. If Irish feels a strong attraction and desire to keep seeing you, I bet he will be thinking of YOU on those dates.
Maybe you can do your own dating during this time? It would help keep your mind off of him and onto yourself? Stay strong...this is for the best and if it is meant to be he will call you and say "I'm done with the others...I choose you".
And also I see nothing wrong with texting him once or calling once just saying something that will make him smile! Not STALKER like texts lol....but just a thoughtful 'hello'.
Hang tough Chickie!! You are Still YOU and can do your own 'thang' during this time. Please keep us posted on you and Irish.
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