Ladies.. keep me strong!!
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| Fri, 11-07-2008 - 6:30am |
Ok, I almost didn't make a separate thread for this, but I'm afraid this could be an ongoing thing.
So, I posted about Irish and how romantic he is, my drive by kiss, our awesome birthday date, and that fact that I'm consuming his mind. Irish is Mr. Long Term Relationship.. I'm the 5th woman he's ever kissed, and he's just coming out of this 15 year relationship. AND remember on our first date he made the comment about how he may need to date around? Well.. yah reality is here.
It was a pipe dream to think that I'd actually find this great guy at this point in his life and him NOT need/want to date around lol. Anyway we talked more last night and he has dates with several women that he planned before my birthday. He said he feels like he NEEDS to date.. but he does not really want to. He says that he worries about just jumping in with me like he always does in relationships, and wants to make sure that he does it right this time. He said he wasn't even sure if he'd be able to survive these dates because I just consume his thoughts so much.
Anyway.. as much as I don't want to admit it.. he really does need to date, and I don't want to just jump in with mr. long term relationship because he's sweet and safe. It would really be way to easy to just melt into it all.
This all actually feels very honest, open, and adult. Although I did tell him I don't want to know any more about his dating around. Lol.. I can just see me now if I knew he had a date one night.. sigh! And you know me.. I'll guess anyway and send him some text msg like "close your eyes" just to sabotage LOL. I totally believe that he is doing back flips for me, but then again I totally understand his need to date. Blah it sucks!
I gotta let this guy breathe ladies, and with him being so super wonderful it'll be hard. So keep me strong!

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"Wild day... fighting" I text back "Are you ok?" and I get back "I've got to sleep at the ex's tonight. Pain in my ass"
OMG!
Great quote!
I don't know TJ,
His behavior is worrisome. He forgets your date, sleeps over at ex's, and asks you what you think of his POF pix. Clean and sober??? Not trying to be mean but that is very odd behavior. It is also very hurtful and thoughtless towards you.
I agree with Periwinkle on this, TJ...
You know that I have been hopeful of Irish. But this weekend sort of demonstrates who Irish is right now. When he told you that he needs to dates others for awhile I believe it was his way of saying he truly is not ready for comittment.
My advice is to step away. I know that will hurt.. he seems nice. And maybe he IS clueless, but that does not change the fact that he is being roped and whiped by his ex. Too much drama. He is still connected. The red flag is up and waving.
Please, please be careful! I would let him know that you are going to let him "just be" right now. He needs time away to disconnect from the ex. Its not a "punishment" or a manipulation.. it is just what needs to be done.
Hugs!!! This really bites. Too hard to ignore the red flag though :o(
Ok TJ - I never am this blunt, but.....your post just made me mad for you.
Well, Irish and I do have a date tonight.. and I have not heard from him since yesterday when I got the text of "OH YAH now I remember!" Ugg. So who knows if he'll even show. I'll post here later. But yes.. tonight will have no "sweet nothings" and I plan on just letting him be after tonight. If he calls he calls, if he wants to go out then fine.. but I will be taking
I'm soooo blind! And no, I'm not talking blind towards Irish I mean flat out I lost my glasses and I'm so blind! haha. I need new contacts.. I'm working an old pair of disposables.. so I won't be able to function for long. So Irish comes over, we have a great dinner which btw I kicked ASS cooking vietnamese for the first time.. I must pat myself on the back. We went for a walk afterwards, I walked in the front door.. we kissed and our glasses fogged (nerd lovins lol), I sat my glasses down and boom they're gone. And I do not have a cluttered living room.. I'm very much a simplistic so I'm just baffled as to where they went. I sense an icecream reward for my kids today if they can find them! lol
Ok so typing blind and all.. update on last night...
The only issue I felt at this point was my place to bring up was him forgetting our date. I told him exactly how it made me feel.. and how rare my free days are. Oh, at the end of the night when he realized I wasn't free again for another 3 weeks unless I hire a sitter he was just like OMG. I was like yah Irish! You and I have had a lot of luck with free days.. its not normally like this. He wasn't happy at the thought of waiting 3 weeks to see me. So I don't know.. there was no solution made there. He apologized a lot for forgetting, said he was under a house when we were talking and he was distracted. .. along with other excuses for forgetting. I told him hmm don't call me when you're working under a house! lol.
Two things said last night from him that stuck with me.. and I really avoided the mooshy stuff like the plague just after the BS I got this weekend. first in a huggy moment he said that I make him very happy. Then in another huggy moment he said he's scared. I said scared of what? He said i don't even know.. moving to fast? So the breaks are being applied by me, and at the perfect three weeks till I'm free time period.
All in all we had a great time as usual. Irish and I fit, its so easy when we're together. It reminds me of what drew me to heartbreaker. Just an incredible feeling of being comfortable... and I like it a lot.
Sorry if there were any typos. I wrote this all without being able to see at all... LOL.
I'd say you typed that pretty well being blind and all lol!
So Irish seems to be
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