Ladies.. keep me strong!!

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Ladies.. keep me strong!!
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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 6:30am

Ok, I almost didn't make a separate thread for this, but I'm afraid this could be an ongoing thing.


So, I posted about Irish and how romantic he is, my drive by kiss, our awesome birthday date, and that fact that I'm consuming his mind. Irish is Mr. Long Term Relationship.. I'm the 5th woman he's ever kissed, and he's just coming out of this 15 year relationship. AND remember on our first date he made the comment about how he may need to date around? Well.. yah reality is here.


It was a pipe dream to think that I'd actually find this great guy at this point in his life and him NOT need/want to date around lol. Anyway we talked more last night and he has dates with several women that he planned before my birthday. He said he feels like he NEEDS to date.. but he does not really want to. He says that he worries about just jumping in with me like he always does in relationships, and wants to make sure that he does it right this time. He said he wasn't even sure if he'd be able to survive these dates because I just consume his thoughts so much.


Anyway.. as much as I don't want to admit it.. he really does need to date, and I don't want to just jump in with mr. long term relationship because he's sweet and safe. It would really be way to easy to just melt into it all.


This all actually feels very honest, open, and adult. Although I did tell him I don't want to know any more about his dating around. Lol.. I can just see me now if I knew he had a date one night.. sigh! And you know me.. I'll guess anyway and send him some text msg like "close your eyes" just to sabotage LOL. I totally believe that he is doing back flips for me, but then again I totally understand his need to date. Blah it sucks!


I gotta let this guy breathe ladies, and with him being so super wonderful it'll be hard. So keep me strong!

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 12:19pm

I found my glasses!!!


LOL. I've been blind all morning, and just made an appointment with the eye doctor. After realizing how much this is all going to cost me (considering i have vision insurance that kicks in 1/1/09) I was like time to tear this room apart!!! They were deep deep deep in the sofa.. we had checked there three times already. Yes, someone got kissy on the sofa and must of pushed them in lol. I blame Irish.


I like the way you put that two steps forward one step back.. thats exactly what he is. And I'm glad you said that because here I am feeling back and forth on being disapointed and then I turn around so quickly and I'm amazed by the guy. He opened up a lot too about his ex and all I can say is WOW. Its really sad.. and just amazing to me what some people will put up with for the sake of the children.


He just called a little while ago to ask me if I was still smiling and that he might need another "replisher kiss" soon. Thats what we called his drive by kiss that night lol.


I think it was more like two steps back this weekend (VERY Disapointed in here) and then about 4 steps forward last night. I just need to be careful not to expect so much from him either. Gotta let him deal with his mess. Blah.

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 12:24pm

Did he give you an explanation for having to spend the night with his ex?

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 12:40pm

He did explain himself and I'm kinda keeping all that part private. Like there were things said last night that were just to wild and personal for me to share even in a somewhat anonymous form here. Basically he has his reasons and a plan.. I like where he's going with the idea of it all.. I just am not 100% sure he's going about it the right way. However, what he does is all done for his children. And no.. he's not sleeping with her or leading her on to keep her happy its nothing like that :)


He is activly talking to a few other women which is good because I know I'm the one that has grabbed his attention. I'm ok with it all.


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Registered: 10-07-2005
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 12:53pm

Blah Michelle!

I would back away slowly from this one. He's too fresh out of the relationship with his ex, too much drama going back and forth with her, too much instability with his children's routines and he needs to get out and just DATE women to distract himself from what he's going through.

If it's meant to be a relationship, then it will evolve over time. But for now, take a step back and JUST date him- no having him over and huge makeout sessions :P

He needs to settle into his new life and see where your place in it is.

Winter Alison

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Tue, 11-11-2008 - 2:53pm

Hmmm... well I think it's a good thing that you guys are having some time apart.

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:17pm

The three weeks is good. He needs to figure himself out a little more and you need some time to see if this is what you really want.

But I loved the nerd-lovin'. Classic.

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