Latin Lover

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Latin Lover
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Sat, 11-08-2008 - 8:36am

Since I went on my "I don't make first moves" campaign, which I am failing at miserably, I decided that even if I contact someone first on OLD, I will step back and let them take the reigns, so to speak.

Last week I emailed this guy whose profile was interesting. It was VERY long, but as I was reading it, it started to make me laugh because he felt exactly the same way I did on so many things. So, for the hell of it I emailed an equally long intro, and he got back to me immediately. I didn't respond, and on Halloween I happened to be on the site and he IM'd me (I usually don't respond to those, either), and we chatted for 45 minutes. Very easy, and I signed off first. He called a couple of times during the week, I couldn't talk, but agreed to see him last night. In the mean time, I made no contact.

On the way to meeting him last night I was whining to myself that I really didn't want to do this...I was so tired from a busy week, meeting meant going into NYC (which is easy from where I live), but whole time I kept thinking "I don't want to do OLD anymore".

So when I got to the restaurant, I was a few minutes early and I walked around the area a bit. Then I mustered up all my strength and went back, didn't see anyone who looked familiar, but then he came bolting out of the restaurant to get me.

Good start...he's better looking than the pictures. Very friendly (good). He's from Colombia, so he has a really hot accent. And this man can TALK, so there was never any awkward silence because he would just keep talking (good). He talked about his daughters very proudly, and even though they live in Colombia he is very involved with them (good). He wants to travel, see the world, try living in another country at some point (all things I want to do). Asked questions about my kids (very good).

Before I knew it, it was 12! I had gotten there at 7!. So I kind of got nervous, and said I had to leave NOW, because if I didn't get the train by a certain time I would be sleeping in Grand Central Station!

Then he leans over and, yowza, huge kiss. He told me I seemed so nervous he wanted to check to see if I liked him. HA! More followed. He walked me to the subway, got on with me and walked me to my train, even though it meant he would have to pay to get back on the subway to go to his place. Stayed with me until the train left. Told me he'd call on Sunday, made a date for Tuesday.

I didn't get home til nearly 2:30! Thank goodness my DD was with her father for the night and DS slept over at a friend's. I would have had a lot of 'splainin' to do.

I am still going to play "hard to get" which is yucky, but seems to be working here. In the meantime, someone else emailed me, he did it first, and it seems to be moving somewhere. So no eggs in one basket, so to speak.

Cross your fingers ladies...this could be interesting.

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Registered: 03-19-2004
In reply to: startover96
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 11:13am
Hi Startover96, Sounds like you both had a great time getting to know each other and talking. Take things slow, enjoy yourself, let him pursue you, there is no reason to play games or hard to get if you know you would like to go out with him again, go with the flow of things but take it slow, no need to rush fast into something, also go about what you normally do, if you're available fine go out with him, if not make plans. I wish you well. Keep us posted.

Anna


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Registered: 03-30-2008
In reply to: startover96
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 3:17pm
Sounds like a great evening and you found a gentleman. I love how he walked you to your train! Keep us posted (on both men!) :)
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Registered: 04-30-2008
In reply to: startover96
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 5:46pm
Wow, that sounds like a great date! Keep up the good work and please keep us posted.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
In reply to: startover96
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 8:26pm
What a great date and s man with manners. I love that he walked you to the train and waited with you. Major brownie points.
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Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: startover96
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 10:52pm

I have never had a date with someone who acted like such a gentleman. My ex would have left me to wander the streets of NY alone, even after midnight.

I mean, I have HEARD of these kinds of men...LOL

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Registered: 06-27-2007
In reply to: startover96
Sun, 11-09-2008 - 12:00am
This sounds like a promising start!