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Let him meet my baby
| Sun, 01-15-2006 - 8:13pm |
Well i had asked before about leaving my son to go out to lunch with my ex....in the end i didn't have a babysitter...so i didn't do that, but then later on in the evening, I got into an argument with my dad, (i'm still living at home), so I left because I was upset, that's when my ex called, and told me to come over, i was hesitant, i told him that i had my son with me and he said, "who cares, that's cool, just come over", i even called my friend before going over there to see what she thought, cuz i really did feel bad about it....well her thought was here's an opportunity for him to realize that my son's real so he can see if this is going to get serious or not, well i went and as soon as we got there he had a candy ready for him, he didn't pay any attention to me, he tried getting my son to play video games (he's 2), and he showed him his fish which my son called Nemo, and he combed his hair and told me that I should cut his hair....he was really nice to him, we only stayed for a little while about an hour...but when i left I didn't feel as bad, I mean it's not like we did anything in front of him, and it does give him insight that I'm a mom now, so it's up to him.....we haven't talked since but my phone got cut off and we have a date planned for friday while my son's with his dad. So we'll see what happens. But I don't think i'm going to make a habit of takin' my son with us, unless it were to get serious....but I live at home and my parents will only watch my son if it has to do with my job or my school, other than that I don't have a babysitter, (my cousin went back to school), and since I live with my parents I can't leave my son and go out late...I guess because no one in my family has been in my situation they expect me to be and act a certain way....but I do feel like I need a little bit more time for myself sometimes. However, my son, my school, and my job are my top priorities.

"However, my son, my school, and my job are my top priorities."
Keep this and work the other stuff around it and then it will all turn out fine. If your ex really wants you and is right for you then he will respect this and support you and be patient. And then you will have the right guy for you.
Keep us posted!!
One more thing - if you are honest with your family and they see that these are your priorities and that this guy respects this then they will do more to support you. I believe they have your best interest at heart - they want you to be able to take care of your child because they realize what is ahead.
Good luck!
I agree with Judy that if you can really show your parents that school, work and your child ARE your top priority, they may be a little more willing to babysit at other times.