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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:03am
I don't know if we've had one in awhile, but it's time!

I don't know if it's just me and I have lived here in Germany to long, but I've noticed these topics more and more in the last years and month. It would interest me if it's normal now and fashion or just not. I'm going to start out innocent and then get a little bit more intimate here. I am just curious, because when I was dating years ago, some of this was totally taboo and I would write them off as wierd, perverted or as loafers ( not in that order) lol.

Is he the gentleman? Does he open the doors? Pay for drinks still or is everything getting split, or you footing the bill?

How much time does he take to pamper himself? What does he do to make himself younger? Example: Cream himself, workout, gel his hair and keep it neat and tidy?


Does you SO or man in your life, or your last dates shave his body parts? I mean not only chest and face, but EVERYWHERE? What parts does he shave?

Does he expect you to shave your female parts and do you? A little, Almost everything or everything?

Did he talk about sex before you even met, or did he talk about sex on the first date? Interesting for those internet chatters... Was this ok for you, or how did you feel?

Is he open about the "M" word, porns or playboy?







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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:29am
Is he the gentleman? Does he open the doors? Pay for drinks still or is everything getting split, or you footing the bill?

Well, if it's an american, I am still usually getting my meal paid for, but not everytime. I still get roses on occasion and I sometimes even get the doors opened for me. European men are a bit more rare on any of that. Even buying a drink. I don't expect to have him pay everything, but I am still a bit old fashioned that because the guy makes more money and I am shelling for the babysitter, he should at least pay for my drinks, if not for the whole evening, without the idea of sex.

How much time does he take to pamper himself? What does he do to make himself younger? Example: Cream himself, workout, gel his hair and keep it neat and tidy? I have been dating the real neat and tidy lately; very GQ and clean cut, taken care of, but I have noticed that their are alot of guys that just don't dress right for a date. They don't get a second date from me, because I expect a guy to look good for me as I do for them. I state it in my profile, so be prepared or don't write.

Does you SO or man in your life, or your last dates shave his body parts? I mean not only chest and face, but EVERYWHERE? What parts does he shave? I have noticed more and more that all guys, especially American Men shave ALL OVER. Armpits, chest, sometimes arms and they always shave below. When did this come into fashion. I am still not used to it. I don't mind if it's clipped short, but I still haven't gotten used to everything off. LOL!

Does he expect you to shave your female parts and do you? A little, Almost everything or everything? Well, I have now come to the fact that I have to shave everything. I hate it, but I do it, because the guys prefer it. I feel like a child though. I accidently came across that when I had to shave for last delivery and my surgeries. Then I heard it's common, so now I do it. I rather just keep it very neat and short, because it itches and its red and I'm sensitive.

Did he talk about sex before you even met, or did he talk about sex on the first date? Interesting for those internet chatters... Was this ok for you, or how did you feel? I hate when men talk about sex right away. No I am FAR from prude and talk about it after AWHILE, but I feel very awkward being so open so quick. I just basically say NEXT, because I figure that's all they want.

Is he open about the "M" word, porns or playboy? IN Europe it's VERY NORMAL to have these conversations over lunch with a guy friend or colleague in your workplace. Their is really no such thing as sexual harrasment here. It's a mens world and they have no laws against it. It took me awhile to discuss this with a guy, but now I can. Same thing with a Sauna. I couldn't go in without my clothes, now after almost 9yrs, I'm ok being their with men and women of all types. I noticed the Americans I date are still shocked when I mention something that has to do with porno or masturbation. Sometimes I think I am a bit too Europeanized.




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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:34pm
Is he a gentlemen? I have quite the gentlemen. Doors are always opened for me, in 5 months of dating I have only paid for 1 meal for us - and only because I did it while he was away from the table. He told me that was very nice of me, but he would pay for everything - always, that he doesn't want me spending anything on him that I could spend on my kids. Plus he makes a lot more money then me, and we both know it.

Pampering himself? He is very clean cut, well dressed, always shaven. As far as keeping himself looking young I would have to say he still participates in sports.

Shave body parts? Face is always shaven, but he is not a hairy guy anywhere else. Doesn't shave his chest - doesn't have any there, no back hair. He does shave the equipment, which I found a little funny - guess I've never seen a hairy penis before, the boys I get. But he leaves the stuff around it alone.

My female parts? I prefer not to be fully shaved, does get itchy. Until recently I had never fully shaved, so I feel like a little girl without something. I like short and neat. I know he likes completely shaved, so I will do it for him sometimes.

Sex talk right away? No, no talk of sex before meeting or right away.

Porns, masturbation? I've never had a problem with playboy, porns, masturbation and I know men like it. He knows I'm ok with it, so we are open about it and he will discuss it with me.

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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 1:04pm

These are about our current men, right???

Is he the gentleman? Does he open the doors? Pay for drinks still or is everything getting split, or you footing the bill? ~~~ Yes, he is still a gentleman. Still opens the doors for me, takes out the trash, does any dirty work, pulls out my chair if we're at a nicer restaurant. We are now married, so our money is pooled together. But he still takes care of paying for meals (pulling out his wallet) when we're at restaurants. He still treats me like his "Girlfriend" and calls me that (much to Tyler's chagrin! "She's NOT your girlfriend. She's your WIFE!" to which J always replies "One day you'll be married, and the day you quit treating your wife like your girlfriend from time to time is the day you get bored and your wife doesn't feel cherished"

How much time does he take to pamper himself? What does he do to make himself younger? Example: Cream himself, workout, gel his hair and keep it neat and tidy? ~~~ J has LOW maintenance hair. He is FASTIDIOUS in the shower. Washes every nook and cranny. STILL uses shampoo on his nearly bald hair (which cracks me up) and is careful to check for nose hairs and trim/comb his beard. Brushes his teeth a few times a day and always smells great. That's it though. Look younger??? He could care less. He is RELISHING being in his 30's and doesn't care about wrinkles or dry skin or any of that. I lotion his legs and feet when I see they're dry. LOL

Does you SO or man in your life, or your last dates shave his body parts? I mean not only chest and face, but EVERYWHERE? What parts does he shave? ~~~ J only shaves his face and head. Doesn't have chest hair to speak of, but I wouldn't want him to shave (ewwwww) if he did. And he doesn't shave down south. No need. He's perfect.

Does he expect you to shave your female parts and do you? A little, Almost everything or everything? ~~~ He expects nothing. I personally trim up neatly, and shave strategically. (I don't shave anything that would itch growing back to speak of, only the places that "matter" the most) I know he prefers it when I keep things trimmed and some parts clean shaved, but he won't "not go there" if I don't. And he'd never complain. Never.

Did he talk about sex before you even met, or did he talk about sex on the first date? Interesting for those internet chatters... Was this ok for you, or how did you feel? ~~~ Not on the first date. Not on the second. Really didn't talk about it much till we did it, about 1 month in except a bit about our previous experience and the fact that we'd try to wait as long as we could. Didn't work very well. ;)

Is he open about the "M" word, porns or playboy? ~~~ J is not as comfortable talking about sex as I am. We do talk about Masturbation, because *I* bring it up and want to know his habits. Which are by far less interesting/frequent than mine. Eh. To each his own. We don't make use of porn at the moment. I am not comfortable with it. And there are no playboy's in the house, though he does refer to his childhood sex education which consisted of his dad keeping a STACK of playboy in the bathroom (his dad was a confirmed bachelor. No woman lived there) for him to browse when he visited. Which he thinks is funny, and I think is TERRIBLE!

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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 1:06pm
I'll rewind 3 years and act like TT and I just started dating . . .

Is he the gentleman? Does he open the doors? Pay for drinks still or is everything getting split, or you footing the bill?

He is a gentleman. He opens the doors. Pays for drinks, dinner and trips.

How much time does he take to pamper himself? What does he do to make himself younger? Example: Cream himself, workout, gel his hair and keep it neat and tidy?

Alot. He works out, he uses hair products, he eat REALLY healthy.

Does you SO or man in your life, or your last dates shave his body parts? I mean not only chest and face, but EVERYWHERE? What parts does he shave?

He shaves his face. And that's it. And that's the way I like it!

Does he expect you to shave your female parts and do you? A little, Almost everything or everything?

Does he expect that I do? No. I do. Have for years and years and years. He doesn't know any other way with me! I leave a little on top (don't want to look like a prepubescent girl - ICK!) but everything else is bare.

Did he talk about sex before you even met, or did he talk about sex on the first date? Interesting for those internet chatters... Was this ok for you, or how did you feel?

We met in person. We talked about sex on our first date! LOL Mainly articles in Cosmo magazine.

Is he open about the "M" word, porns or playboy?

"M" being marriage or money? LOL Very open about money, very uninterested in marriage, he has a subscription to Playboy, and he's not much into porns, unless I agree to watch with him. And even then, softcore stuff only.

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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 1:07pm
I hate it, but I do it, because the guys prefer it. I feel like a child though...Catherine, I don't like it either. So I don't do it. I do what *I* want to. Which is, as I said, trim up and shave strategically. And yes, J appreciates it, but it's MOSTLY for me. Because I don't like looking messy and feeling messy. I've been doing it for YEARS. I think men who "expect" that should get the boot. Just my humble opinion. And yeah, when you shave it all, you do feel a little weird and like a child. And the upkeep is a NIGHTMARE. And waxing? OMG!!!! Don't even get me started there. I'll NEVER EVER try that nightmare again...
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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 2:30pm

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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 5:19pm
Is he the gentleman? Does he open the doors? Pay for drinks still or is everything getting split, or you footing the bill?

He's always been a gentleman. Even since being married, he opens doors, opens the car door, and he always paid...even when we were just friends. It's just how Shane is.

How much time does he take to pamper himself? What does he do to make himself younger? Example: Cream himself, workout, gel his hair and keep it neat and tidy?

He normally showers and shaves. That's about it. He will gel his hair if it's growing longer than he likes. But he keeps it cut short. He's clean on the face too. ANd he always wears cologne.

Does you SO or man in your life, or your last dates shave his body parts? I mean not only chest and face, but EVERYWHERE? What parts does he shave?

He doesn't shave anything but his face.

Does he expect you to shave your female parts and do you? A little, Almost everything or everything?

He actually prefers the "old school" playboy model look with most of the hair there (down there), but I do shave most of it off as my own preference. He doesn't mind it shaved underneath, but I think he'd rather me let it grow more on top, but I hate that. He respects my choice and never complains...;)

Did he talk about sex before you even met, or did he talk about sex on the first date? Interesting for those internet chatters... Was this ok for you, or how did you feel?

We didn't speak about sex on our first date. It took a while to get to that point. He had my top off several dates before we even had sex. We got to that point and that was all she wrote!!

Is he open about the "M" word, porns or playboy?

Yeah. I know he looks at porn on the internet sometimes..not often and I know he masturbates. Everyone does it. He likes playboy and I don't have a problem with it. He doesn't any, but I bought him a hard cover playboy of 50 years in pictures. It was for Valentine's Day. He loved it.

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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 8:19am
Yes, the "M" word was meant to be masturbation. LOL!

So! This was a great quiz, but still hasn't answered what I was looking for. No one mentioned this, but it would interest me. Is this normal behaviour of shaving yourself totally underneath now normal or a fad? And any reason why the guy is so fascinated by that? Is it the fantasy that it's a young girl not yet in puberty idea? What's the view on this?

Hey Becky,

Your right: WAXING! ARGH!!!!

Also, I do feel wierd being totally shaved, because I am not yet used to the idea of why they rather have it that way. I just think it's more manly and womanly not to shave totally. Keeping it trimmed is one thing, because who likes a jungle, but totally bare is just unsexy for me. Yet every guy I have been with in 18 months either has it shaved or told me he shaves. I told them I thought it was unmanly and they looked at me as if I were nuts.

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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 8:58am
Ok - this is about Jack since that's all I got for now...

He is the gentleman-Does he open the doors-Pay for drinks/food - everything

Yes he uses Cream himself, works out, he uses products on his hair and keep it neat and tidy is clean shaven and even does yoga - takes vitamins - meditates - you name it.

Jack saves EVERYWHERE - chest, armpits, face, you know where.- but not his arms and legs

I just do so I don't know - I am not abig fan of everything off because the stubble LOL - I did it once and we couldn't do it for 2 weeks practically because it was so uncomfortable *blush*

He did not bring up sex until we were about to have it LOL however most internet guys do. I fact I brought this up last night while talking to Thomas 9the new guy) He never did either and infact didn't even make reference. It came up last night but not about us - it was more converstional/philosophical. I personally think that is just bad form to hear anything but "You are very attractive" anything beyond that is over the top

Yes to the M (and I thought it was sexy! - very weird I know he is the only one that I ever found that attractive about) yes to porn - although he wasn't as into it as some others and playboy is so tame who cares. So yes to porn.

How is that? Was he a true metrosexual or what? I thought he was 100% sexy but that is me.

Laura

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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 9:47am
Right now, I think it's considered normal. It may have started as a fad, but once the look was out there in magazines, it became more expected of women to do this. The cleaner look and feel and most women enjoy not having to tuck it all into swimsuits. I know I do. I just personally feel cleaner in that area if I shave it all off underneath, but I do leave the "landing strip" so it's trimmed nicely, but doesn't look pre-pubescent. I have shaved it all off before for guys I was dating that liked that. But I found it to be itchy. Shane prefers something there and I am happy with the way I keep it now.

As for guys, I never was with a man that shaved it all off, but one shaved his scrotum. I liked that actually. Shane is not overly hairy down there so he doesn't have to do a bunch of maintenance. It's very clean and neat and what needs to be trimmed, always is. His chest is hairy and I love that. It's not a big bush like a gorilla, but it's soft and comforting when I lie next to him in bed. I mostly care about how he keeps his hair and face trimmed and he is always well maintained. I told my mom that if he weren't so big and manly, you'd think he might be gay or metro at the least because he likes to shop, and he can dress so well. But his mannerisms show how he's 100% into women. LOL! I love how he takes pride in what he looks like and tries hard to look good every day. Clean nails, starched shirts, cologne, etc. That's what I've never had and I love it!

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