Let's hear online success stories.......

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Let's hear online success stories.......
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 5:55pm

Well, mine wasn't really an online thing. It was more of the destiny fate thing going, because we had met 5 days earlier and then we both signed up on the same day, only minutes apart and when we matched each other (through match.com) he was my first match! The same man I totally clicked with during my interview. For Scott and myself it as just plain fate. It was meant to happen and because we both were in a professional atmosphere we let it go until we realized that we were given a second chance.

HOWEVER! My cousin and her husband met online and they swear after 3 yrs of being married now, that they are soul mates. To see the both of them together is just exciting and puts you in awe. They have a wonderful respect for each other and with the kids ages 4-12 (all from each of their first marriage), they have a wonderful loving family.

So we often hear how often online dating doesn't work, but I have also heard other success stories besides the one's mentioned above. Therefore, anyone who can share one, let's hear it.

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 8:36pm

I sort of met my current BF online. We had seen each other before and even rode the train together for almost 4 years, but we didn't know each other. In December of last year, I saw his profile online and sent him an email since I knew I had seen him several times on the train and we lived in the same town. We met for coffee a week later and we've been together ever since.

We talk about getting married within the next 5 years.

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 11:44pm

D and I are an online dating success story :) Whenever I get told, "he's such a doll, where did you find him?" I say "Yahoo.com"! LOL

He emailed me, I replied to him. We chatted briefly online and on the phone a few days later. He really had no agenda other than getting to know me. I remember I was having some turmoil over my then-brand new puppy and he gave me advice on what to do. We didn't speak again for almost two months because I was sent to the North Pole for work, but when I got back I answered an email he had sent me and we agreed to meet for coffee.

By now I had been seasoned with respects to online dating and had learned not to get my hopes up. So I was feeling rather casual about the encounter and had a very take it or leave it approach. I was prepared to walk away disappointed. But the moment I spotted him and our eyes met I knew it was different. My knees went week as he stood up to take my hand and as he stood there, nearly a foot taller than me smiling, he took my breath away. The smile in his eyes was warm and his honesty was refreshing. We talked for an hour before we both had to leave to pick up kids. I gave him a hug in the parking lot and told him it was really nice meeting him.

He later told me that hug stayed with him for days, like an electric shock. And he knew his search was over...did I mention he is a romantic. :)

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Tue, 05-24-2005 - 11:00pm

I'm seeing a woman that I met on Match about 6 weeks ago. Still very early on of course, but the connection & compatibility is better than I could have ever imagined!!

I ended a 4-year relationship in October (though it had already been "over" for quite a while). I briefly dated one guy from Yahoo and another from another site, which didn't last long but helped me get a feel for the online scene and dating in general. Through these 2 guys I was able to gain a better sense of what I'm really looking for and what kind of people to avoid. So after a short break and not finding any other guys that fit my "criteria" I decided to try the women-seeking-women option. (I've always been been bi but haven't dated women in many years.)

So right away I discovered "geekgirl" - "A nature freak at heart, I somehow got sucked into the computer world..." Immediately I thought okay, here's someone I can totally relate to! I winked, she winked back, we started writing back & forth and met within that week. We have so much in common it's ridiculous - from the mundane random interests to our deeply held values and goals and ideals, we just agree on nearly everything important. And the things that don't match 'perfectly' are still close enough to work.

We both have a history of rushing into 'prematurely serious relationships' so we're making a conscious effort to not get 'caught-up' in rushing it this time around. It's refreshing to have someone who actually wants to get the friendship/respect stuff established rather than jump in blindly. We've met a few of each other's friends & family, received the "best friend's stamp of approval" (LOL) and we've taken our profiles down and are "dating exclusively". We're talking in general terms about possible future stuff for the sake of looking for incompatibilities BEFORE getting too attached. We haven't come across any red flags or problems yet, so far so good!!

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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 8:29pm
ARe you kidding me...this guy is called Scott, too? That is too funny. It's a great beginning!
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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 4:41am

Hi sweetie!

How are you doing? I haven't heard from you in soooooooooooo long! Give us an update! I miss you!

I gotta tell you, I am VERY happy. This guy just get's better and better and better. He is just really wonderful and I am extremely happy.

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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 2:32pm

I gave up on online dating, and I didn't meet a single person in real life!

As soon as I figure out a first and last name, I immediately search the guy in Iowa's sex offender registry and Iowa courts online search web sites.

Guy #1 - Registered sex offender, he claimed it was some high school mistake where he was 18 and the girl was 14, but looking at the case closer, I found there were TWO victims, which he forgot to mention. I don't know why I kept talking to him, I had no intentions of meeting him, I was just curious about the convictions after I found them, then quit talking to him.

Guy #2 - Failed to mention 2 OWIs and the fact he had no license.

Guy #3 - Getting sued by at least 25 collection agencies.

Third strike and I was done, my theory is that at least in this area, there is something seriously wrong with every guy with an online profile. :P

I'm happy to see others have had success, maybe I'll give it another try if I move away someday!!

Lindsay

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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 3:48pm

Hey Lindsay! welcome!

You are very wise to check up on these guys! Saved yourself alot of grief! What's up in Iowa? ;)

I personally didn't have that many bad eggs to deal with, but I did have a friend who met men of less than best character. The only bad egg I got was a guy who told me he was 40 and a prominent college professor. His picture made him appear very youthful. When I met he looked MUCH older...and I never quite found out how old he was, but I did find out that he was unemployed, divorced twice, and the kids from his first divorce were my age ( I was 30 at the time)!

My friend did have one who was married and didn't tell her, another one who had 2 DWI's and a disorderly conduct charge.

BUT, with that said, I met alot of good guys too. There *ARE* some nice normal guys out there. Sometimes, you just have to get through all the toads to find them.

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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 4:09pm

You're completely right, I'm sure there are great guys out there on the sites. And the bad eggs aren't restricted to the sites either, I could have easily bumped carts with any of the guys at WalMart and struck up a convo. I just have bad luck. ;)

Lindsay

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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 5:41pm

Lindsay,

I don't think you are the only one who has had some bad apples. I have also stopped online dating for the same reason - there were just too many losers in my opinion. Guys that drink too much, guys that are married, wierdos, multiple divorces, workaholics. I really got sick of blind dates and the whole process. I feel it does attract someone looking for the easy fix to their loneliness.

But there are good stories - I think it is okay if you keep your expectations in order and treat it as one minor way to meet someone.

I like the ways that were mentioned here to check someone out - I also do the same. I even look on the property appraiser's website to make sure they don't have the house in a wife's name, too.

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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 6:22pm

"I even look on the property appraiser's website to make sure they don't have the house in a wife's name, too."

that's very clever! Our county assessor's website allows you to look up deeds of purchase which indicate if the person is a "married person" or "single person" and lists all the parties on that deed. You can look up by name and/or address.