letting him meet my son ?......
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letting him meet my son ?......
| Sat, 03-11-2006 - 8:11pm |
So, I just want to introduce them to eachother, so it's not a big shocker for either of them, not necessarily for all of us to go out all of the time, but just so he gets that my son's real, and that my #1 job is him....what do you guys think?? I want to wait until april since then it'd be 3 months since we've been talkin', but i brought it up to him because we really like eachother...and that's like next month, i don't know, that way, he can really think about being my boyfriend or not since I have a 2 year old. I'm trying not to rush anything, but I think that maybe they should just meet once then later on see how the relationships going then all of us go out if it's still going strong........hm...i'm so new to this.

Ok, honestly I may NOT be the best one to answer because Nicolas and J met each other after
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I agree with the others - keep it short and fun for the 2 year old. As long as the 2 year old is having fun, everyone will be having fun!! I would consider a park if the weather permits - or a chucky cheese or ice cream type place - just for an hour. That is enough for a start.
With a 2 year old, you might want to remember that right before a nap is usually not their best time, so I would time it accordingly.
I would advise waiting to have more interaction until you are sure things are going to work - but for now there is nothing wrong with them meeting so you can see how those two get along and so you can make sure your bf understands your priorities in life now.
The others have good tips on what to say to your bf in advance.
Good luck and keep us posted. Maybe others will post more, too.
I can't ell you what works best for you but I feel as if you asked my opinion. I have VERY strong opinion sabout this. One of my friends is divorced and both she and her ex introduce the people they are dating WAY TOO SOON. I have watched their daughter get attached to many people onlyto be disappointed when it doesn't work out. It always seems harmless but kids are a lot smarter and sensitive than we realize.
My personal expereince has worked so far. I decided when I got divorced that only someone I was very serious about and was in an established relationship with would meet my son. MY bf and I were together 7 months when he met DS and it was in a large group setting. He met him again about 2 weeks later. It was then about a month later they saw one another again. My bf andI had been dating a year before we spent some serious quality time together with my son. DS LOVES my bf and if we do not work out (which I hope is not the case but you never know) my DS will be breaking up with bf as well and that could be hard. I don't see me and bf breaking up. I actually can see a future with him so that's pretty wonderful. I just know that DS had time to get used to bf and I was pretty sure how I felt about my bf. I think you should be sure in the relationship and how both parties feel about each other.
Just my 2 cents.