Little green monster showing! Just a bit

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Little green monster showing! Just a bit
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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 10:58am
jealous. Ok, ok, if I tell you, you guys will balk, but! I am a little jealous of my best friend who just invited me to another wedding of hers. She's getting married for the 4th time and only broke off one engagment. She's as old as I am! She isn't even a knock out or anything, but she's just very nice. However,I am just a little green, because Germany sucks and I am dateless this weekend. Again.
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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 11:16am
Being dateless might not be fun, but you can't be jealous of the 4th wedding! Will you be jealous of the 4th divorce? No. Plus it's only Thursday morning, might you not still get a date by the weekend? I am not sure what my plans are this weekend, I may see my bf or if not, I have a TON of cleaning to do and new book to read :)

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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 11:35am

FOURTH?

Kim

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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 12:08pm

I am VERY sure you won't be jealous of her 4th divorce though. (ok that might be doom and gloom, but who're we kidding? Unless she's made some major changes, she's obviously challenged in this area)


Don't worry Cat! Just go and have fun and be glad YOU aren't getting attached for the 4th time. ;)

Becky

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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 12:11pm
Statistically the odds of her having a 4th divorce, since she's obviously had no time to MAKE changes in between marriages, are pretty good. I'd bet on her 4th divorce before I'd bet on ANY game in Vegas...
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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 12:54pm

Is she related to my ex husband?
Seriously!

Don't beat yourself up for the twinges of envy, that's natural. But everyone is right, she doesn't sound stable in a relationship at all. Unfortunately, it won't last in all likelyhood. There's more to pity then to be jealous of.

You're doing alright the way you are! Hey, better to be single and dateless than in a doomed relationship, don't you think?
Tara

 

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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 3:18pm

I was a bit mean today when she said it. I was like "dang, do you think I could take a choose of one of your wedding dresses when I meet someone? Because you've got plenty to choose from now." :-O How awful is that?
Ok, first time around she wanted to get out of the house
Second time, she it just didn't work for various reasons
Third time, the husband slept with her best friend and she was pregnant.
Then their was Randy. Randy, I don't know really why they broke up but they did.
Then came John. Don't ask me, I met him (this is the only guy I met) and he seems nice, but she's broken up with him several times because he isn't much of a family guy and the last time was in December and she was trying to go back to her 3rd X, then two weeks later the engagement is back on again! I couldn't believe it.

Her mother married just as much. Must run in the family, but I guess their is still hope!

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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 4:02pm

Cat:

Pleeeeease! It's ok to be jealous of a friend getting married, but I wouldn't worry about this one too much -- don't think it will last. And I agree with Tara. It's much better to be home alone than to be in a bad relationship. There's usually a reason someone is married that many times. Like that older guy I dated who was married 3 times. I soon figured out why he was married 3 times. And who needs that. Not me.

Find something fun to do with the kids this weekend or do something for yourself. Oh, and you can always call me, too. Keep your chin up. I know your Prince Charming is right around the corner.

Donna

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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 4:14pm

i have never been to a 4th wedding-- why would anyone have a "wedding" for the 4th time - you would think they would elope- go to vegas or Justice of the peace? I mean you cant honestly think that a crowd coming to a 4th wedding is really all that supportive and postive of the outcome of the couple? I am having a hard time thinking about a second wedding and if I even deserve one like I had the first time - let alone a 4th ??!! How nutty who is she and how is that she has this surmountable $$ to afford 4 weddings? She must just like the parties and the attention and planning a wedding- when it gets to the actual MARRIAGE - the high is over....

Think about it really- what in the heck is there to be jealous about? Just having SOMEONE- ANYONE ?? GEE alot of times a novel and a hotbath are faaaar better than spending time with just anyone.

Need to let THIS one go honey!!

:) MB

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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 7:05pm

I feel sorry for her.

Put the little green monster away. Be glad you are single now - it will make you strong and right for Mr. Right.

Truly Catherine, you can get a date in a drop of a hat. But you don't want just any date. You want a handsome prince who is "that into you" and who wants a relationship. It takes time to find that. And you will.

Patience, my princess :-) patience!!

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 2:45pm
Hey there Catherine! How's about you take MY hubby for the weekend?! LOL. Just joking. Everyone is right, it's MUCH better to be single than to be going into a 4th marriage, regardless of the circumstances of each. I would NOT like to be her. I was just getting caught up on your posts from the past week or 2, and I'm sorry you've been so unhappy. I'm particularly upset about what you said about the people from the States (your family/friends) crapping out on you as far as coming to America and giving you a place to stay. They don't sound very supportive. Sheeesh, I'd let you sleep on my couch, hon, but we are LITERALLY tripping over everything including each other. It would be comical if it didn't piss me off so bad because I'm constantly falling and dropping things and bumping into things!(We really need a bigger house!) Ian, to me, sounds like he's very insensitive. You don't need 'im. You deserve much better, hon, and you will find him. Try to have a good weekend! Hugs, Kim