A little setback this weekend~

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A little setback this weekend~
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Mon, 04-16-2007 - 3:22pm

I don't know if you all will remember my story but I had been dating "D" for about 6 months and the relationship was fantastic. He relocated out of state back in January and obviously the relationship had to end. We still communicate via e-mail and once every few weeks by phone. I took a break for about 2 months from dating to re-focus and then dated one person from Match. I've also been corresponding with another.

Well, D was back in town this weekend for his 20 year class reunion and I went to see him on Saturday. I was so happy to see him and it felt like old times again. I met up with him knowing full well that he'd be heading back to Florida and while I'm pretty rooted in reality and know that we can't have a relationship meeting him this weekend has set me back a bit again. I know that the most healthy thing for me to do for myself is to shut the door on the past but it's so hard.

I don't even know what I'm looking for here~just kind of felt good to write it all out and get it off my chest. I know he has strong feelings for me also but the reality is that I'm in NJ and he's in Florida. We had such a great friendship though~aside from the chemistry which was amazing. ~sigh~ I need to move on, I know.

~Dani~

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Mon, 04-16-2007 - 4:16pm
Oh - that is so hard when you like someone that much and they live so far. Yes, you do need to move on - or he needs to move back to NJ! Hopefully your prince charming who is even better is just right around the corner!
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Mon, 04-16-2007 - 6:18pm
Yeah, I wish he'd move back to NJ but I don't see that happening. I think I just hold onto that hope but in the meantime I may be missing out on meeting someone great~different but great. Thanks for the words of encouragement~
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Mon, 04-16-2007 - 9:51pm

I do know what you mean about holding out too long and missing out on someone. I had a crush on someone I saw every day and just kept hoping and hoping something would happen and it did not. I think people like this are there in our lives for a reason. But there comes a point when we have to realize we can give them no more of our time.

The good news is that there is always tomorrow and we never know what that may bring!

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Mon, 04-16-2007 - 11:10pm

Uh, HELLO!?! You are talking to the girl who slept in Carlos' bed last week! WITH him, lol. I totally "get it".

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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 8:45am

I think knowing that you need to move on is the first step. I also think since you're so far away from each other, you'll be able to do this. Seeing him again for a weekend may have set you back, but you can move on from him, and by the next time you see him, it may be possible for you to be friends.

Good luck, and keep us posted!

Moody, friends with some of her exes


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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:13am

I know~I don't know how you were able to do that and seperate out the old feelings but kudos to you~you're inspiring!!!

I am communicating with a few people on line it's just that my heart isn't into it right now BUT I am forcing myself to continue. I posted my Match ID on your other thread. I'd love some feedback. I think I need some new pics and a bit of tweaking.

~Dani~

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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:15am

Yeah, I hope so. I'd hate to lose the friendship. I really value it. I am trying to forge forward though. Communicating with a few guys through OLD and hope to have a girls night out next Friday so that always helps~ Thanks Moody!!!!

~Dani~

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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:17am

It's kind of surreal coming here for encouragement when I'm always the one that all of my friends come to when they need encouragement. I tend to give pretty good advice but when it's MY problem all rational thinking goes down the drain. Thanks so much for the kind words and support ladies!!!

~Dani~

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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:45am

There's this saying that I love- "Take MY advice, I'm not using it"... and it sort of sums us up, I think. My friends also come to me for advice, but naturally it's easier to see the whole picture and know the best thing when we aren't truly right in the thick of it.

Just one more reaosn I love this board- we are all supportinve, yet we all come with different sotries, different experiences, and that keeps us open to giving different opinions. This has helped me think of my own situations in new ways- ways I never would have thought of on my own!

This is truly a great place to be.

Moody, feeling the single mommy love


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