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| Mon, 08-02-2004 - 8:27am |
Hello,
I posted this question on the living together, but though I might get some perspectives here.
Have any of you moved in with a boyfriend with your children? I'm curious about what kind of problems/situations arose, especially if your boyfriend never had children. Did your ex (father of your children) cause, or try to cause any problems?
I'm thinking that living together first may give me a chance to see how my boyfriend and daughter will get along/interact on a daily basis. They get along wonderfully, but their interaction is somewhat limited because I have my daughter only every other week, and weekdays are just the two of us, because of work/school/etc.
Thank you.
I posted this question on the living together, but though I might get some perspectives here.
Have any of you moved in with a boyfriend with your children? I'm curious about what kind of problems/situations arose, especially if your boyfriend never had children. Did your ex (father of your children) cause, or try to cause any problems?
I'm thinking that living together first may give me a chance to see how my boyfriend and daughter will get along/interact on a daily basis. They get along wonderfully, but their interaction is somewhat limited because I have my daughter only every other week, and weekdays are just the two of us, because of work/school/etc.
Thank you.

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I advocate for you two to talk about his role in your family's life before you move in. Will you make parenting decisions together, what about discipline, couple time, childcare duties. How open is he to reading some parenting books and stepparenting books? Are you at a point in your relationship where he is stepping up to be the stepparent or just treading the waters? If he's just treading the waters, I wouldn't move in with him. I firmly believe that if you were to be a family, you would find a way to work it out, teach him how to parent and lead the family as a team. But just to see how it could work out? Not worth the exercise from the point of view of the kids.
My xh moved in with his wife before they were engaged, I believe. I had a problem with it because of other issues, not the cohabitation sans marriage thing. Whether or not I live or marry someone is none of the business of my xh.
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