lonely and waiting

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Registered: 08-12-2007
lonely and waiting
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 3:05pm
HI!
I hope someone can offer some advice to me. I'm a 38 year old single mom who has been married twice. In the last few years ( since 2002) I have lost my Mother to cancer, both Grandparents and been through a second divorce. The last couple of years I have found myself craving adult male attention. My daughter is 14 and I don't want to disrespect her in any way, but I admit that after she goes to sleep at night, I have pondered asking a friend over. Does anyone else have the same issues? I work hard everyday,have two degrees and I'am currently working on something else. I spend one night out the weekend with my Dad to help him out.I'm ready for some fun of my own.

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:52pm
You are exactly right. I have to learn to like myself first. My Mom use to tell me that alot. I'm going to take your advice.
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Registered: 08-12-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 11:00pm
Sometimes I try to do things to keep myself busy. In fact we are always busy with after school activities ( with my daughter) and other extras. People tell me I need to slow down, but this is the way I have kept myself going since I lost my Mom.I get involved in yardwork in spring and summer. But now fall is approaching and there will not be much to do outside, plus the anniversary of my Mom's death is coming up on December 27th, so fall and winter are tough.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 6:52am
Aww sweetie, I am sorry you have to endure the loss of your mom and the anniversary of her death coming up right in the midst of winter and the holidays - that must be so hard for you. I think that explains why you want someone there with you now. But unfortunately the only person who is really going to be there for you is you. Kid activities are great because they do get you out of the house and around other people but that is not enough - you need me time and your own social time with adults and people who care about you. Not that you can be as you once were in your 20s - but you do need to make time for you and stay balanced. A happy balanced mom is a great example to her children and a stronghold for the house.

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