Long distance r'ship...can it ever work?

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Long distance r'ship...can it ever work?
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 7:12pm
Hi all. I mostly lurk here, but when I have a moment of free time to write I do.
My question is Have any of you ever had a long distance romance work out in the long run? I met this guy about a month ago while he was in my town on business. We hit it off the night we met, and he took me out dancing that same night. He had some traveling north of my town during the next week, and then he came back and took me to dinner the following Wed. night. We had a great time again. He had to head back home and he called me and said "we have to do that again! I want to take you back to that resturant!" He called me again about a week and a half later, because he saw something on the tv which reminded him of me, so I know he's been thinking about me as I have him. On the other hand, I have to be realistic. He is so far from me, that I just don't know if it could work?
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 12-10-2005 - 10:01pm

Well, you won't know if it could work out if you don't give it a try.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 7:44pm

I think Alison does have a good point but it is my opinion that it is just too easy to find someone nice who lives near by. The pros are that you found someone and get to travel and have fun weekends. The cons are the "inbetween" times of not seeing each other and wondering what he is up to and also the risk that you won't really know him in real life or allow the relationship to develop naturally.

I guess it will depend on what you say about how far and would one of you really be able to move? If you have a kid you have to think seriously about that - about the other parent not being able to see them if they are nearby and in their life - and about the upheaval.

For me, I want someone who is here now and ready now. I have tried the long distance thing and it never worked for me and I have read a lot of accounts where it is a mistake.

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 12:11pm
Hi, and thanks for your responses.
Well, he is in TX and I'm in IL. So, it is quite far, and I'm not willing to move anywhere, I have to stay put for my 2 kids, and I am also a f/t college student, so moving is just not an option for me.
I don't know if it will go anywhere, but I like to think it would (as long as he can move, that is! ;-) )
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 1:38pm
Hello,
I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years as of July. It is not the idea relationship but I love my SO and am will trying to make this work. Not saying that I don't get tired of the distance some days but this is what is working for me now having kids in high school. Yes it can work but you and the gentleman have to find what works for you.

lisa j romesburg