Long distance...kind of....

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Long distance...kind of....
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 12:47pm

For those of you in longer distance relationships…


Cat
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 1:29pm

I think adjusting to changes especially when they are changes in relationships and how we connect are tough.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 1:59pm

Hi Cat-


I was thinking about you this weekend. I remember that you said Friday he was too worn out or something to get together. I would have been disappointed, and I wss thinking you must have been, too- especially since you needed to talk to him.


What concerns me in your case is that he wants you to "stop feeling insecure" over the issue of not communicating with you during the week. To me this would be a tough pill to swallow. Asd women, we naturally need communication. I don't mean over bearing communication or anything- but it'd natural to want to feel connected through some sort of communication. You were feeling secure when he was living nearer to you and you were able to connect through communication before and now he

~Pacific~
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 2:10pm

Pac:


I just knew you'd respond.

Cat
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 2:26pm

Is this new job permanent? Or temporary?

Is an LDR what you really want?

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 2:36pm

This job will go until November and then he'll move onto another project...not sure where.

Cat
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 2:41pm

Okay - if it is temporary then that is better than permanent - and yes I know about the traffic!

I would not be okay with the no communication thing - you are already having to give up a lot with the distance. But that is me.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 2:49pm

he had text messaged me "how's your day going".

~Pacific~
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 2:51pm

I would not be okay with "not communicating" whole week. Does he have a very demanding job? if so calling and texting all day is not good either. Can you set up a time like 1 hour before bedtime ( to talk both of you should alternate the call) and every mrning or lunch time a short chat. At least once a day detailed talk is healthy and good, unless he has too much work on a certain day.


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Registered: 10-09-2005
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 3:10pm

I actually did text him back that I'm having a good day and told him he made my day by texting me and that that's all I really need from him to feel cared about right now.

Cat
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 3:25pm

I made it for years after my divorce without a man but if I'm going to have one, I want to have one, you know what I mean?


Yes!!!

~Pacific~