Long One

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Long One
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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:37pm
Been single for 7 years.....I have a 10 year daughter, whos father got remarried years ago and ever since has not been consitant in his visits, several times over the past few years he has completely disappeared from her life, it is only when I file in court to change the percent and the money he becomes involved again, this last time he changed all his numbers and stopped paying from Sept till April he had not had any contact with her. Of course we went to court in March and his visits were to start again, April he would have her 2 saturdays over night then starting May 1st and third weekends, well my point, I recently got involved with a man that I explained the enitre situation to. Explained she has had me to herself for the last 8 years and there are attachement issues.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: fooled2much
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 12:53pm

I want to clarify my posting since after re-reading it, I feel that I came across fairly judgmental and I just posted something about judging others.


I apologize.


I have learned that all judgment is self-judgment for what we have an opinion on comes from our own values and it would not bother us unless it is within us in the first place.


Having clarity of what is right and wrong for each of us, for me is really important.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: fooled2much
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 1:00pm

NO - I don't think that was judgmental at all!!

"May I suggest that you get in touch with who you are and what is important to you for that is what you teach your children."

I loved that - and think that we all need to get in touch with who we are and what is important to each of us. And especially for dating - otherwise you end up in a bad situation or a place you don't want to be.

I also think it is important for us to give our opinions and share lessons and experiences here. Not to let someone run under the bus and say it is okay -but to say - if I was you I would do this.......

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: fooled2much
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 3:04pm
I agree not judgemental at all, I f I did not want opinions I would not be here.....I appreciate all and I know they are opinions, I can take them or delete them and you are very right...thank you!!

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