Long talk...thinking things through
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Long talk...thinking things through
| Sun, 08-03-2008 - 10:40pm |
Well Jesse called today to speak to me about any chance of getting back together. I spent a year with him and do still care about him but I am not ready to go back down that road. He says he is in therapy. I know he needs it in many many area's. I care a

It absolutely makes sense...however, are you really ready? Can you just date him casually to see if he's really changed? And then if he hasn't are you ready to deal with the break up and post dating him stuff? And of course these and many others are just ifs.
I'm missing the guy I was engaged to earlier this yr. Alot has to do with the lack of meds, my ex being nice and just having the stable person who really wanted to be there for you.
For both of you:
I would think that your hesitation is more because YOU would have unresolved issues, and would be waiting for the "bad" stuff to come up- so even if he WAS changed, you would just be constantly waiting and drive yourself crazy because of it.
I know I could not be with A because I would always wonder WHEN, not IF, he was going to take off and drink.
Like Rebecca said, they're ex's for a reason, and you have to remember that. Do not let a few bad dates sway you to a bad ex. You'll be much better off to just continue forward in life and find the right guy who matches you well than to take 5 steps back with someone you had the good sense to leave already.
As for him being in therapy/ counseling- I think that's great. But it's too little, too late, and doesn't mean that you NEED to get back together with him. You can be supportive as a friend now if you truly want him in your life.