Look at this one what he writes from EH

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Look at this one what he writes from EH
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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:08pm

You guys - I need a kick in the pants here - because I feel overwhelmed! Usually I do have the habit of jumping into a relationship too fast because I don't juggle well - and I know I need to work on that - to give them more time so I can see if they are right before I jump in. And I do like KarateMan - but this one writes from EH and he has a nice profile and pic - which is crazy because EH has been really slow for a while.

Realtor is definitely broader minded in his ways of thinking, work and travel - even likes cycling. He is over an hour away, though, with kids which is tricky because I do not want to move - but have to see. But I will be good and write back and keep an open mind - because KarateMan and I have only been on 2 dates and are not exclusive.

Here is his note -

Hi West,
Thanks for answering my questions. I just joined eHarmony and was hoping to meet someone of value with whom I had a lot of things in common. I was delighted to see your profile because when I read it, there were so many similarities to my own life, I thought it could have been written for me as well.

There is a whole process of getting to know each other and I am sure you have just as many questions for me as I do for you. But for right now I think I should keep this intro short and sweet so I will leave you with just one thing to know about me...I am on this site to meet a someone special for a loving relationship...The qualities you expressed in your profile and the warmth in your smile is what drew me to you.

Hope to hear back from you.
Sincerely yours,
Realtor

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:39pm

Spring is in the air!!! The mating season is in full effect. LOL!! I like what he wrote and this may be a good thing to help keep things grounded as you get to know both men.

Looks like you are in demand ;)

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:44pm

I'm like you.

Cat
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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:49pm

West,


I liked karate man but then I am biased. But this new one sounds good. I like the way he left some up to mystery. Yeah I think you ought to write this one back. Even though he's an hour away it might

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 9:37pm

Oh- I like what he writes!


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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 10:25pm

I don't know now - the new EH one just irritated me in his last note - he is asking if I have been to his city and naming all the reasons why he loves it, which to me is very tacky if you are writing for the first time to a woman who lives over an hour away and has a kid. Here it is:

Hi West,
My grandfather was a very big influence in my life. The sad thing is that he never realized the impact he had on me, because so much of his wisdom and demeanor became my own after his death in the late 80's.

So about bike riding...I see from your pictures this is a competitive thing for you. For me, I just enjoy a long ride every once in a while, and having recently moved to (his town), I am taking to a route along (street name) between (2 cities). I would consider biking competitively if I had the right equipment, but for now it's just a great form of exercise for me.

Seems like you do enjoy all sorts of fitness activities. Are you training for anything right now? Do you run marathons or do you just get out there and push your own personal limits. I feel that exercise is the key to physical and mental health, and would so much rather do that at the end of a day then to visit a happy hour somewhere.

Have you ever been to (his town)? Do you know anything about this little town that has become so popular lately? I am in the Chamber of Commerce here and also in charge of Marketing for a fund raiser we are doing involving the (sports team)....Sundays at (ocean street) is a meeting place for all sorts of fitness enthusiasts (did I spell that right?), which was one of the major reasons I decided to relocate here.

I'll be on-line throughout the night if you want to write back. Look forward to talking with you.

Realtor

(edited to remove street names)




Edited 5/13/2008 10:40 pm ET by cl-west1745
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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 11:45pm

Hmmm... he seems unsure of what you do- do you not state in your profile that you do marathons?


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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 12:33am

I don't put much credibility in the words on email exchanges. It all comes down to face-to-face chemistry no matter how much I relate to the other person online.

I warn you in how much judge someone in the words someone writes. Time and time again I read how each of you chastise each other not to overanalyze.

So just talk on the phone and meet if you can do that.

On eHarmony I barely read the women's profiles or their responses. I just want to skip through that and actually talk and meet.

Make sense?

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Registered: 11-03-2003
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 1:24am

I can see what you're saying, Mark.

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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 8:43am

I do put that I enjoy swimming, biking and running as part of my leisure time - I do not do marathons - but I think he wrote that because one of my biking pictures was from one of my races. I put a mix of my new modeling pix and a few "active" pix that show me hiking in blue jeans, biking and swimming - I feel that gives a very clear "picture" of what they get with me - that I can dress up and look beautiful but I can also put on the jeans and go hiking or swim or bike. That is me.

I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and wrote that I grew up near his town but really like my town too because...... (hahaha!)

But his next note got him the ax. He asked if I minded if he asked me some questions - and then asked how long I have been in business and what I do, what are the ages and sexes of my kids and how long have I been divorced. And then he said he has only been divorced since March!

I don't know - I think subconsciously I did not like the fact that he is a very different religion and he lives over an hour away and then just put me off with the questions never mind the recent divorced thing so I closed him. "I think the physical distance is too great."

While Mark brings up a GREAT point that we cannot overanalyze, I think we have to weed out the ones that really don't match from the beginning. And there are just too many things there that don't work for me. I am learning to listen more to my inner voice rather than try to please someone who is attracted to me.

It was a fun post here though and flattering that I can attract someone who is a good standing citizen in the Chamber of Commerce! OLD really is a fun process for me and in a way it is like a box of chocolates - you never know what is going to pop up!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 9:51am

He doesn't sound that bad.

 

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