Loooooong talk with.....

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Loooooong talk with.....
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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 8:57pm

Jimmy.... Since i'm working nights, i stopped in for some karaoke last night after work (btw i'm joining some coworkers out after work tonight)... Back to last night, he again was very happy to see me. He said he was actually going to call... okay maybe he wasn't but obviously he was thinking of me. He said, just when he was thinking of calling, i showed up....

I had a blast playing pool and singing...then Jimmy got off work at 1 am and we hung out talking til 4:30 am... Yes, we talked for hours... about EVERYTHING... I think i figured out our connection... As i told my story, single mom...divorced an angry drug addict... hard worker... getting some financial help from the state.... He could relate because he grew up in that situtation. His stepdad was an abusive addict... His mom barely supported him and his sisters.... She was like me and fell inbetween the poverty line and the able-to-make-ends-meet line. So... that was kinda creepy and enlightening... I was thinking "no wonder we have a connection" we have similar life experiences... Not sure if that's a good thing or bad thing...

Another thing we talked about was religion and faith. I told him I'm a Christian... albeit a bad christian at the moment... What surprises me the most .. is I don't have to preach and i don't ... but just mentioning that i'm a christian causes other people to "preach" their beliefs to me. And perhaps that's because of all the preachy/judgemental "christians" out there.. And i don't fault or blame either person... But it was an opportunity for me to share a little about my faith and how i've seen miracles happen in my life... He said he appreciated that i was real... that i didn't claim to know all the answers or pretend to be perfect.... I told him i haven't always been a christian... that before i was 30 i was "agnostic"....he said that was a person who believed in a higher power but not necessarily the bible... But i shared my experience that after i began reading the bible i just fell in love with Jesus. I enjoyed hearing Jimmy talk about his life experiences and his dreams and his hopes for the future.... That was REAL intimacy!!

I'm not thinking too far ahead... we talked about so much and at the end he stuck out his hand to shake mine... Thanks for the conversation, we said at the same time.... And i said, how about a hug. (no kiss, yet)...

i'll keep you posted ....

Loonybunny

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 12:37am

Tossing in my two cents..... I've had the incredible experience of connecting with someone on a spiritual level, and it brought a closeness I've never known before.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 9:08am

Wow - it sounds like you two have two very good connections. And important ones at that. But don't get too far ahead - he has to WANT to move things forward in a romantic way. And you have to wait for that.

I hope you are not too tired today!!

And yes, keep us posted.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 12:05pm

Yes, sometimes i feel like i'm the one who moves the relationship along... is that alltogether bad? He told me that every girlfriend he's ever had has asked him out... is that bad? When I asked him what he meant when he said to Summer, i can't figure her out.. He said, because he sees me talking to many guys. He thinks i could get any guy i want.. (why do guys always think that but us girls never actually get ANY guy we want?) When he sees another guy talking to me, he backs away.. That's odd..... when i see another girl talking to him, i step up and try to gain his attention again...

oh well.. we'll see how it goes....

btw, haven't heard from Eagle yet.. but thursday is still early.....

Loonybunny

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 12:12pm
It is okay to a point. But you have to be careful it does not go on and on. Just keep looking at all options and don't get stuck on one just yet.