For the love of chocolate...i need a

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For the love of chocolate...i need a
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 3:36pm

freakin break already. SO the drama continues with CP. Frankly im OVER it already. Today was supposed to be his day with DD, but as you may or may not recall he never gave me gas money last week and i said well she wont be here next week. He called my mothers last night at 7PM to ask is she would be coming. Before i could say no...he continued with {"because if not im going to work since i really need the money" so I replied well no then since you refused gas money last week. He snaps back fine ill see you in court. My stomach was in knots and the prince was there playing with DD and had her really wired and i snapped for everyone to calm down it was time to get going. I still had to give her a bath, feed the dog, finish up the laundry that was started at 6am, and make her lunch for the day. SO the prince gets his knickers in a bunch and storms out, DD is now crying because he left and my mom is giving me the stink eye. Fine! We get home, DD is fine, dog is fed and happy, my stomach still in knots. Everything gets done...ok fast forward. I get DDs mail at daycare and now their is tumbling classes that I am definitely putting her in (how can you not when all the other kids are going to do it???) so thats $$ fast forward yet again...i run out of the office for some errands and who is sitting on a park bench waiting for the bus around the corner from my office...TEEN BRIDE H* AGGGAGGGHHHHHH Are you freakin kidding me...(my mood is probably being dictated by the fact that i had a dream about cp last night...we got back together and i was happy...EWWWWWWWW time to call in a refill on my mood stabilizers!!!!)


Thanks for letting me vent...it does tend to help


M


PS was it wrong to roll down my window when i saw her and laugh and call her a wh***...i didnt yell it or anything...just sort of mouthed the word so she knew what i was saying...wrong???

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 1:36pm

" Hes one of those people in this world that feels laws and guidelines and restrictions are for everyone else...that HE is the great exception"

I totally know what you mean. Sorry you have one of these guys in your life too. Everyone associated with my case is aware how nuts and abusive my x is. But I'm so calm and competent, the court does nothing to protect me or my kids. What seems to be escaping everyone's notice is that he is getting worse. Eventually, even I have a breaking point.

QB

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 1:59pm
Im sorry to say Queen I know what you are going through...and you are right. They do tend to get worse with time. I dont know if they go unnoticed so much as they learn how to make their actions blend into the scenery so to speak. BUT have faith it wont go unnoticed for long. You cant just depend on the system for protection...sheesh i learned that the hard way. A protective order is simply a piece of paper. Reach out to some organizations in your area. They are there I swear. If youre not sure how to find them, contact a local church. Domestic violence is EVERYWHERE and it still carries a stigma...not sure why. Shoot woman...i was embarrassed of the crap i went through and still am if its brought up BUT i got out (ok stepped right into another crap relationship but thankfully got out before it got
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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 4:32pm

"the court does nothing to protect me or my kids."


Makes you think about bringing back the angry mobs or vigilante justice, doesn't it???


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Registered: 09-21-2006
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 7:00pm

Because my X is not physically violent with the kids, it's very hard to get anyone to take the crap I put up with as a serious problem. The incident this past week still has me rattled, because PsychoBoy will do it again, he has absolutely no remorse and has sent me e-mails on how it is all my fault and I'm horrible for turning the kids against him. Our S19 apparently took it upon himself to call PB and give him a piece of his mind. S17 did as well. Both boys were taking the sitter's side, I was out of most of the really crazy stuff, but PB interprets it as taking my side, as if I instructed the boys to say these things. Any person with any sense of empathy would have told him he was waayyyy out of line with the sitter. Both boys know what a sweet, decent person she is.

I have repeatedly asked for the e-mail only form of communication, but Psychoboy puts on this sob story that he does not use e-mail, doesn't have internet at home. LIES, and the court buys it. So I just unplug the phone when he is having one of his "episodes". Life goes on. I have to go down to the records office and pick up the officer's report from last week. Document, document, document, all I can do.

QB

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 7:02pm

LOL

I think that seriously crossed the minds of my neighbors last week.

QB

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