Love Questions for Thought. WWYD?

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Love Questions for Thought. WWYD?
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Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:01pm

1) You are dabbling in Online Dating. A man emails you. Has a degree, great job, great looking, divorced and involved dad. Great guy all around, even writes well. You feel chemistry through the email However, he lives 4 hours away. WWYD?


2) You are single and at your favorite coffee spot one morning. You have your dog with you and you see nice looking man sitting down with the same breed of dog. Your pooch gravitates to the man's dog. It could be an opportunity to say hello to the nice looking stranger. WWYD?


3) You meet a nice guy at work. He asks you out and you're enjoying great conversation on your first date. You seem to really hit it off. Then he reveals that he was involved with a co-worker in your office and their split was ugly. WWYD?


4) You've been dating a man for 4 months exclusively. He has children of his own and you two arrange a family gathering where you all will meet. Your children and his children do not seem to get along. In fact one of them instigates a fight with another. When you get home, your children say they don't like his kids at all and don't want to see them again. WWYD?


5) You've been dating your guy exclusively for one year. He's recently been acting strangely- he's been emotionally distant, avoidance of much conversation, not as affectionate and a bit edgy. He begins staying at work later and seems really concerned about his appearance..buys new clothes, working out more. You have access to his email and cell phone. Do you snoop?


6) You have a great relationship going, have been together with your boyfriend for 3 years. You are online one day and by accident you discover a chat log that he has been on. He was in a chat room talking about explicit sexual things. What are your thoughts? WWYD?


If you are single- you have a first date with a nice man who is successful and well liked recommended by friends. would you give him a

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:16pm

Pac, I just had to laugh at the last question.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:23pm

LOL!!! Nice first impression...NOT!!


Oh, first dates stories (and nightmares) are so funny!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:25pm

I went on a first date with a guy that talked about how he had a woman living with him who had a 3-year-old.

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Registered: 10-06-2008
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:34pm

1) I would pursue it- He could be my soulmate! What are the chances that the man of my dreams would be within a 20 mile radius!

2) Well... I'm not a bit shy so I would strike up a convo with him over the dog!

3)I would try to find out more about his character. Not everyone is a good click and there are always two sides to the story.

4)I'd have to wait a bit for the dust to settle and try again on that one. Sometimes you can work through these things

5)Having been cheated on before, I can say with no hesitation-YUP Without a doubt!

6)I would have to confront him- straight up. In my book that is equivalent of an emotional affair

I'm single so.....
1)yes, I run late too- as long as he is courteous enough to call- 30 minutes is the max I guess
2)deal breaker there! If he is rude to others it won't be long before he is rude to me
3)ewww If I really liked him I'd bring gum next time!
4)I've been divorced twice- So I guess there is someone for everyone- I'd date him a second time then judge
5)No, I'd make sure I looked good for him so expect him to do the same for me
6)We all were wild in our 20's
7) MAJOR Red flag there for me- There is usually a reason! have to next him for that
8) If he asks me and there is no mention of the word "DUTCH" when he asks- (if it is made clear I have no problem with paying) then I expect him to pay. I say no to a second there too

ANY OTHER QUESTIONS????

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:35pm

You mean to say you turned down an hour drive to see a truck-pull with a man who kicked out a g/f and beat her child?? Isys what's wrong with you??


lol. Holy cow- that one takes the cake.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:37pm
Yeah and get this.
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Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:39pm

"He stated that he smacked the kid for jumping on the couch and when the woman told him not to hit her kid he kicked her out."

OMG! imo he did that woman a HUGE favor.

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Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:40pm
 
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Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:40pm

1) too far away. NEXT

2)Of course, say hello. I'm not a dog person so this wouldn't likely be me...

3)No dating guys that work with me. Just simply a bad idea. When/if things don't work out there could be problems. I just think it is a bad idea. I do however work in a very large building and have been known to flirt on the elevator (before J moved in...)

4)Well, I think that will simply take some work if he is willing. I can say my kids don't always get along with each other (they have said they don't want to live with each other on occasion as well). If we both have kids full time it may take more work but if you get to that point I don't think you just throw in the towel because of drama.

5) I don't know if I would snoop. If I was even tempted though, we would have to have a conversation. If he was unwilling to talk about it, it may be time to move on. I won't accuse someone of doing something if I don't know it to be true. If we are only dating, he has no commitment to me and if he wants to move on he should.

6) LATER!

7)- late? How late is acceptable? More than 5 or 10 minutes with no call is too late. I leave.

-rude to wait staff? no second date

-had bad breath? Tough one. Depends on how bad.

-had been divorced three times? I've been divorced 2x myself so I guess it would depend on the circumstances. Certainly no trouble making a commitment ;0)

-was handsome but but no style- mismatched or torn clothes? Has to be clean and appropriately dressed (no torn clothes). There are no exceptions to this. I would be embarrassed to be seen with someone that couldn't dress themselves.

-reveals he had been arrested for fighting in a bar in his 20s? So? I got a DUI in my 20's not since...

-has never been married and has no kids? Depends on his age and if he has had any long-term committed relationships. I really prefer someone that has children but...

-does not offer to pay on your date? NEXT!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:41pm
The fact that he saw nothing wrong with sharing this information with a woman he just met on a first date was a huge red flag.

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