Lunch Date Today

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Lunch Date Today
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 5:49pm

So this guy is going to be called RED. He has red hair but not gleaming red hair...more like auburn. ANYWAY, met him on Yahoo Personals. He has two kids that live with their mother in another state and they're moving back. He is super into his kids which is always good. They are spending the summer with him in about two weeks. We emailed and chatted on IM and then met up today.

We met at Starbucks and it was super casual and easy. Good conversation but he didn't ask a lot of questions about me. He was handsome but I think I had him with broader shoulders in my mind..lol. So it went well but here is my question....if I'm not feeling any type of butterflies is that bad or good? Is that a sign that there wasn't anything there? Do you have to have the butterflies??

He was super nice and smart and funny, got a long hug at the end and he said he'd find me on IM. I guess I just don't know if this is good or bad or if I should take the good advice to STOP ANALYZING! I guess that's why ANAL is in that word!

In other news I'm talking to 2 other guys on Yahoo Personals. One who predominately likes Country music (he may be a NEXT), One who takes 8 years to respond back to an email (how busy can someone be?). I got new messages today from two possibles. Good lookin boys...we'll see how much they have upstairs ;)

I have a date this weekend from a POF find. I actually can't wait to meet him because he's very smart, good emails, he texts sometimes and he has a little girl. He was born in spain too so that's a plus. We'll see how that goes, I'm going to call him tonight for the first time. wooohoo!

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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 8:22pm

I like your update! Having plenty of options is always good!

I think the butterflies don't have to be there- especially because after reading this board for so long I have seen that butterflies and sparks fizzle out long before the slow burning coals do.

Butterflies aren't a deal breaker, but I would think that if he's still not interested in learning about you after the second date, I'd worry that he was too into himself.

Keep us updated- we love the stories!

Moody, craving coffee now


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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 3:13pm

I agree with Moody, good to keep those options open! :) Sounds like you have some good ones.

The guy you met for coffee could have been nervous or something with meeting for the first time in person. Some people, me included, tend to forget stuff to ask or say but that means that I get to ask/say them next time...if there IS a next time. lol

Keep us posted!

Jennifer

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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 6:12pm

I agree that first dates can be tough sometimes and nerves may get in the way. I feel sometimes I talk to much and don't ask enough questions. I would just watch his patterns and see if the questions start coming. I have mixed feelings about butterflies..I've had them like crazy with someone and then the next time things fizzle away. BUT I've also had them and had the most passionate relationship. One day at a time I guess....
It's good to hear you have many options. How is yahoo personals, I've never tried it?

Natalie

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Fri, 06-08-2007 - 2:07pm
Any word from Red?
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Sat, 06-09-2007 - 8:38pm
It sounds like you are doing a great job at getting out there. You just have to wait for the one who calls and calls to do more and more and whom you also feel attracted to. It is a numbers game. Keep us posted!