The lunch meeting is now dinner!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
The lunch meeting is now dinner!
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 11:43am
So he emailed me to say he was back in town. I replied to his email and asked where he wanted to meet for lunch. He wrote back that he thought we should do something after my meeting since it gives us more time. So now we are having dinner! I am pretty psyched! Although I am still trying to approach this a meeting not a date. Even though it is starting to feel more like a date. Anyway, just wanted to share!
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 2:51am

Just a word of caution;

A suggestion I would make is that you set a limit to how long you will spend with him on the first evening and stick to that no matter what. Make arrangements with your babysitter to be back at a certain time and you can even be honest with the guy and tell him that you don't want to take it past a dinner at first. Through the years that I've been in iVillage, I've seen post after post where people seem to get involved too quickly when they allow a dinner meeting to turn into a wild night.

Meet him, let him know that you have to leave at a certain time (allow ample time for a leisurely dinner), and then enjoy the dinner. It may be hard to leave by yourself afterwards, but it will give you time to think about what happened and to really reflect on what you want from him. It can keep you from getting carried away by someone that makes you feel good and you like, but who you realize just really isn't for you.

Michael

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Registered: 02-28-2005
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 8:25am

I agree that is excellent advice. I hope you have a great dinner though!

Jessie

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 9:01am
WOW! You read my mind! My excuse for keeping the dinner to 2hours max is that I have a bus to catch (which is true) and of course my daughter. Of course, I things are not going well I can bail out earlier. But I don't want to get carried away, because there is a lot to consider if a relationship comes out of this (distance, timing, child, etc)and I don't want to get ahead of myself.
THANKS! I will let you know how it goes (T-12days)