lunch update

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Registered: 07-14-2007
lunch update
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 6:21pm

I had lunch with the widower today. He looked even better in person and was very nice. I didn't get a feel as far as chemistry one way or another but enjoyed meeting him and talking. I got an email later that he was already seeing someone else and they were moving toward exclusivity. He didn't want to cancel on me and felt awkward mentioning it over lunch. I told him no worries and that I was happy for him and wished him well. He reiterated that he really enjoyed meeting me. So that was it.

I am ok with it and am actually feeling pretty good about the matching process so far. Both men have wonderful qualities and look much better in person; I just haven't found my man yet. Plus, he mentioned that his wife just passed away in February(of this year) so I am not so sure I would want to be that first relationship.

So on to more matches, it is just a matter of time before the right one comes up.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:20am

he mentioned he needed to find a new Mom for his kids


Aye yay yay!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:29am
Oh no he didn't!!!!
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:40am

ROFL Soccermom!!! But so true!


Still- it's sad for him, if he's out looking for a replacement so soon. He doesn't even realize how disastrous this could be, for both him AND the kids- to try to replace their mom.

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 2:49pm

Yes.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 3:08pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 3:32pm

"BTW: he mentioned he needed to find a new Mom for his kids. I suggested that it seemed that would be a difficult transition right now and he responded that kids are resilient. He is very deep in denial still."

OMG - you did dodge a bullet! But you did good to stay positive and say that you are getting the feet wet and practicing a date- that is good - and that you can see the matches are okay so you can have faith in the OLD system.

I don't think any kid could be "resilient" about losing their MOM! That is just a crazy statement.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 6:03pm

I hear ya! (And I can SEE you again now, too! lol)


I'm 43 and I don't feel very resilient on some days about losing my mom. I can't imagine that as a young child!!!


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 8:51pm
WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT????

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: msmsavannah
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 9:18pm

At least he was honest and didnt ghost. I dont blame you for not wanting to be the first after his wife passed. I dont think I would either.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: msmsavannah
Thu, 06-05-2008 - 6:55am
Exactly - I thought of you and rlch when I posted that. It was a really hideous thing to say - I would drop him like a bad habit that needed to go yesterday.

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