M, History and Jesus Sandals.......
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| Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:14am |
Ok, so let me tell you what taking the High Road can accomplish.
You all know that after M dumped his stuff on my doorstep that I didn't respond to him about where his glasses were, etc. I just ignored the text message because I was so angry at him and disappointed the way he ended things in such a low form...
Friday:
I went to his office because M is on vacation and I knew that I wouldn't see him. I brought them to the reception desk and the guy who was at the desk took them and put them in a drawer. I told him to let M know, but I had a feeling that wasn't going to happen. It bugged me, because I didn't want M contacting me to find out where they were, so I decided I'd let him know Sunday night in a short FYI. So keep that in mind....
I went out with Mr. History on Friday night. I never get a pedicure, but I decided to take two hours off earlier at work and pamper myself a little. Afterwards, I went home and fixed myself up. I put on a white summer dress and a pair of white sandals to go with my dark tan. I have naturally curly hair that I straighten so I decided to let it go kinky and put on a little make up.
Mr. History picked me up and we went to a place overlooking a park for a few drinks. We just talked about all sorts of things, then he drove me to the Plantation home. It was so pretty and relaxing. The weather was perfect, so we sat outside on the wrap around porch for a candle light dinner.
What I like about Mr. History, is that he puts a lot of time in for others. He is a History teacher, but also teaches ESL and AVID (for ADD and troubled Teens). My two girls both have ADD and Alex takes AVID, so it was interesting to listen to him talk about the kids in his class. Then he also spends 20 hours a week in the summer and 10 during the school year with a one on one for Juvi teenagers. He acts like a mentor and big brother.
It'll be interesting to see exactly how much time he'll have for us. But that isn't important now.
Afterwards, we went to one of places that I have enjoyed going for Blues music and after that we went to a wine bar. So the night ended up being very late. We started out at 6:30 and I got home at 2am. Crashed! But not before Mr. History texted me to tell me he had a fantastic time with me.
Saturday:
I woke up at 5:30am to go to the beach this weekend. As I woke up, I noticed another text. It was from M! And it read: It's 3am in the morning and I can't go to sleep for thinking of you. I do miss you. If it matters.
- UM -......... Actually! No, it doesn't.....
Of course, I sent no response.
Packed my things and headed for the beach.....
Jesus Sandals said he would be on his best behaviour if he could just hang out and surf with me for the day. No discussions about us, etc. I said hesitantly yes.....
Met up with him and we had a good time and no serious conversations. Later on I went to visit other friends of mine and have dinner and stayed with my Aunt Dixie.
Mr. History sent me a text or two asking how I was. I sent him pictures of me and then he said I miss you and I should call him later. -UM- No. I decided it's ok for him to miss me a little. Don't want to just date him and give him that idea....
Sunday:
Moving right along... Sunday I woke up and went surfing again. Jesus Sandals (who got new and good looking sandals now.lol) asked if I would have brunch with him, so I said sure. We had brunch along the water and then afterwards I went shopping a little for myself.
I decided to head out a little earlier then usual, so I could get some stuff done around the house.
As I drove home, I decided to let M know where his glasses were, so I wrote him this:
"FYI, I dropped your glasses off with Mike at the Pepsi office on Friday." - nothing more, nothing less.....
A few minutes later he texts me this: " THX. I'm truly sorry about the way things worked out between us. I just hope that someday you can forgive me."
AND THEN I DECIDED TO END THIS STUPIDITY AND RESPONDED:
"You made a choice; live with it. As I said weeks ago: We were not important to you. No sweat, I've moved on."
O - U - C - H !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Needless to say, I didn't receive a response back. I felt SO good writing that and to me, it closed everything.
Still driving to Charlotte, Mr. History writes me a text: It's weird, I feel like I haven't seen or talked to you in a long time. I want to spend all of my time with you.
I responded with: That's cool, I enjoy my time with you. Call me later when you have downtime. Later.
THEN: A message from Jesus Sandals! (LOL, who WAS on his best behavior)
U trusted me again to be your friend, you can trust me to be your lover. You can search forever and never find anyone who adores you more and will try to make you happier than I will. Just listen to your heart. I will forever wait for you Catherine.
- OK - !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Where does he GET this stuff????
I just wrote him and said: I don't know what to say. I'm speechless. I'll talk to him later this week.
Got home. Cleaned up the place a bit (side note: 5 cats can make more of a mess in a day then 2 kids).
Around 8:30pm Mr. History calls to talk to me and then I talked to him about 5 minutes. Told him I have to go find something to eat because my frig. is empty. He asked if I would mind if he tagged along and just watched me eat. LOL.
I said, sure, meet me.
So we met up for some wings and a few beers and talked. He asked me how many dates it was since we've met and I said does it matter? He said, yeah, kind of, because to him it seems like a dozen and I said, No, it's actually only been one and the rest were meet and greets. LOL. He looked a little put off, but I think he's trying to head where I don't want too: Exclusive dating.
As I left him (with a kiss), he wrote me and said he hated leaving me tonight and that he really enjoyed being with me.
soooooooooooo, that is my update.
I checked my emails this morning: 6 new winks and 2 emails. Not sure what to think about them. The winks I delete, but the emails I'll have to think about. Cute guys, but here I go again... Having trouble dating more then one person. DARN IT! That's ok, I don't have to date, but I don't have to let him know I'm not. I'll be ready, when I'M ready.
M sent me another email last night. Just a fun powerpoint with kittens, saying he thought I might like it. I have a feeling this isn't the end of him. :(
But of course, he will receive no response.
So that is the update............

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Hey Cat - Phew! That was a LOT to catch up on!
My opinion:
M- screw him. If you want it to be "over" with him, it IS. Cut all contact for now, in my opinion or he may seep his way back into your life & heart, & you have already gone there. He has his glasses. Thats it. Finito!
JS- I dont remember anything about him, but if he's hot, why not just casual sex? lol Ok, i know, I know, thats just what *I* would do! But seriously, he seems like he doesnt GET that you arent interested in that way - & is there NOTHING worse than hearing lover-type words from someone you dont want to sleep with? lol
HT- He rubs me the wrong way, sort of. But on the other hand, he could be a GREAT guy, just not really used to dating? I would be ultra turned off if after 1 date he was saying all those things ... heebie jeebies for me. Would make me feel smothered & think he was clingy. But maybe he is just infatuated (why WOULDNT he be? lol) & doesnt know that he should be holding off a bit. At least he's not all over you physically, thats good. As for the Steelers blanket. Aye aye aye. What IS with some "men"!?! I know Carlos had this furry blanket with all these colors on it & it totally reminded me of the blankets we had in my house as kids. I told him in a joking way, a couple times ... & wallah! Next time i went over, her had a brand new NORMAL Ikea duvet that we christened immedietly ;)
Anyway - i dont think this guy should be next'd at this point. But i would caution you if he doesnt back off a bit. Let us know how it goes!
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