Marriage
Find a Conversation
Marriage
| Sun, 07-13-2008 - 7:47am |
Well, I told myself that I would ask my bf for his thoughts on marriage this weekend and, with 1000 butterflies in my belly, I finally did. Casually and out of the blue, I asked him if he ever thought about marriage. I figured that was a fairly safe question...wouldn't indicate that that's what I wanted, etc....

Pages
One of the books I read had a section on this exact situation.
Wow - your response is so good I feel like I should copy/paste and say I agree!!
luv4me2be - listen to Soonee - she has a GREAT answer.
"but I want more. And I want it given willingly." - that is a great goal - be true to yourself!!!!!
OK so I am confused. What is wrong with out right asking him if he is willing to get married within (put timetable here)?
Mark
What is wrong with out right asking him if he is willing to get married within (put timetable here)?
Depending up on the man, nothing.
Thank you all, so much, for your support and great advice! I figure I've put it out there so now I'll see if he brings it up in the next few weeks. He knows how important it is, for me,
I know for me I don't like to assume, guess, or read in between the lines when it comes to relationships. You know what you want and how you want it. I am offering up another way to view the situation (which may be the same as you bf's view).
I ask people in my life to ask me directly on what they want. I don't interpret what I or you want as an ultimatum, threat or anything of the kind if it is stated, "I would like..." or "I want ..." If the words come out as "You need/should/better do..." then that's a threat.
You know your bf best. As I said before, you also know what you want and know what sort of mate that is perceptive enough to know what you want.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
How long have you been dating???
We've been dating for about 4 years now and I've been fighting with myself for the past year trying to decide just how long I'm willing to wait.
I've never really been a dater (except during high school) and considering I met my
4 years?
And you're afraid to talk to him about marriage?
Something wrong with this picture.
Pages