Marriage?? Me???

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Registered: 08-26-2003
Marriage?? Me???
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 10:17am

Hi, I have been seeing a great guy for the past 4 months. Everything between us is great -it's like we were mean to be together. I ahve never gotten along so well with someone else and we are so comfortable around each other even though it's been a short amount of time. He has been around my son and they get along great - my bf even bought him some Easter Gifts this past weekend for a surprise. He always talks of things down the road, plans for us etc.

I think he is it for me.... it's so frustrating to have to wait and see. I wish I could flash forward 6 months to see how things are then. For the first time in my life, I actually think of marriage!!! How do you all feel about your SO and marriage?

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Registered: 06-29-2005
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:51pm
I have only been with Mike for 2 months (yesterday actually) but I've known him for 3 years. There is no question in my mind. He is the one for me. He's already promised me that we will be married as long as I answer yes. He's even started looking at rings. When you know, you know!






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Registered: 02-08-2006
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 2:38pm

Hi! I think it's wonderful that you're so happy! That's what we all want, in the end, even if some of us don't want marriage... we all want to be happy.

I think sometimes the actual time you spend with someone doesn't really matter... when it's right, it's right. I was with my exhusband for a long time, and he was not right for me. It took me a while to realize that.

It takes me less time now to realize a certain man isn't right for me, and I think as we progress and mature, we find out more about ourselves, what we're looking for in a mate, and what we absolutely can not settle for. That's a good thing.

Enjoy your man, your relationship, and your happiness! We all deserve it, and when one of us finds it, we should all celebrate that.

Fast-forwarding wouldn't be nearly as much fun as savoring every moment you have with him!


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 4:22pm

Welcome to our board.

It is great that you have been dating for 4 months and still feel happy and positive. And I know it is hard to wait - but you should wait in my opinion. Do you have any long relationships that lasted more than a year? Think about how much you learned after a year or two?

The longer you wait the more sure you will be. My mom used to have a saying, if you rush into marriage too soon then you linger in misery much longer. Or something like that.

You have your whole life ahead of you and many more good days. Take each one slow and enjoy!!

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