Marrying after 40 - or for a 2nd time

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Marrying after 40 - or for a 2nd time
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Sat, 01-26-2008 - 6:26am

I just received a book I ordered about marrying after 40. They interviewed 100 women who married over the age of 40 and they all tell their stories. So, I wanted to share what I have learned so far:
- never give up
- create a really great happy and independent life
- BE the person you want to date - make a list for what you want and then make sure you meet it - are you fit, financially sound, emotionally put together, etc.
- know your self and what you want
- settle on looks but never on character or integrity or trustworthiness
- pick someone you like just the way they are with no changes - get over the small things they do to annoy you
- choose someone who likes you for the way you are and doesn't want to change you
- pick someone who is nice to you and the people around him
- get out there and look every way you can
- don't worry about age -up or down
- attitude is everything - have a good one

I am reading the part now about how they did finances.

The whole thing is very uplifting and validating for much of what we discuss here.

The title is "Getting Married After 50 - Advice and Inspiration from 100 Women Who Found Good Men and Happy Marriages" by Carmen Anthony. It is out of print but amazon has used editions for not that much.




Edited 1/26/2008 8:44 pm ET by cl-west1745

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 9:58pm
It sounds great and exactly the kind of book that I'm looking for.
Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 5:12am

"I really don't want to have to go through another marriage malfunction."

AGREED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL - your statement cracked me up - it is like the understatement of the year.

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