Mars Venus moment

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mars Venus moment
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 1:26pm

I posted over on the male POV board to get an answer, but I thought I'd share here as well.


As you know EG has been bummed out about his job and getting passed over for a promotion.

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 1:50pm

So my 2 cents is that if whatever you do to be supportive makes you angry or resentful then it does neither of you any good.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 1:58pm

Thanks Mark.

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Registered: 04-14-2008
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 2:10pm

I do not think it would be unsupportive of you to do your own thing for a while.


I don't know the two of you so it' is hard to make a recommendation.


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Registered: 10-09-2005
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:33pm

I agree with the other posters...find out what he needs from you, whether it's involvement or to be left alone.

Cat
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:55pm

I like waht Mark said.. ask him how you can best support him. I know sometimes it's hard to not take someone else's moods personally. BE has had work related issues sometimes, and as a woman I did not realize how closely work/succsess/productiveness is tied into esteem/feeling good all around for a lot of men. When I come home from even an awful day at the office I seem to leave all my worries at work. But not so for BE and so I had to give him the time and space to work it out. I just offered up my ear for him to bend.


I think you're right to call it a Mars/Venus issue. I think in a week or

~Pacific~
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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 9:41am

Thank you!

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 10:06am

Hugs, Isysmoon... you just don't sound quite happy with the way things have been lately with EG. I hope that it passes soon, and things can get back to more normal with you guys! I'm sure the whole ring/relocating part of it has changed things a bit, too. I know the moving isn't something definite or

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 10:23am

Yeah things are not positive right now.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:09pm
I think the best you can do is let him know you are there for him

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:28pm

For me I don't take work home either and find that my personal time is a much needed relief from my job.

~Pacific~

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