Hey Laura, How I approach such "scary" things is focus on having fun, make a game out of it and not be attached to the outcome. Easier said than done I know. I psych myself to become playful and meet strangers. Some would respond by looking at me blankly or with destain but others would get in on the vibe.
Good for you for making the time and putting out the effort out of your comfort zone to do such a thing. It's a process and a journey.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
ITA.... I was going to say also she could have always written him back and said "right back at ya" kind of like - yes, I will ask if I have any more questions and you can do the same you know!! You are right that some people just love talking about themselves but a real curiosity about others around you and one which is sincere or empathetic shows character.
I think you went to this meetup with bigger aspirations than what you found - the people and pool sound about right at least from my experience. And we all do that - perhaps because you remember the way things were when you were young and dating? Because that is what happens to me.
Right now it is all about getting out and making friends. Treat each guy like a big lovable stuffed teddy bear - smile and laugh and strike up conversation and then leave it at that. If they are interested they will pursue - it also doesn't hurt to leave your phone number if you have the opportunity.
Think NUMBERS girl - the more you get out and meet and talk to - the more your chances are for one to stick and really like you and want you.
Sounds like you are off to a good start - and I agree with what Mark and Alison say.
Hey Laura,
How I approach such "scary" things is focus on having fun, make a game out of it and not be attached to the outcome. Easier said than done I know. I psych myself to become playful and meet strangers. Some would respond by looking at me blankly or with destain but others would get in on the vibe.
Good for you for making the time and putting out the effort out of your comfort zone to do such a thing. It's a process and a journey.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
"He emailed me back, and said if I wanted to know more just ask."
Ok.
Letting him know that you'll be there is
I was going to say also she could have always written him back and said "right back at ya" kind of like - yes, I will ask if I have any more questions and you can do the same you know!!
You are right that some people just love talking about themselves but a real curiosity about others around you and one which is sincere or empathetic shows character.
Yes, I agree.
I think you went to this meetup with bigger aspirations than what you found - the people and pool sound about right at least from my experience. And we all do that - perhaps because you remember the way things were when you were young and dating? Because that is what happens to me.
Right now it is all about getting out and making friends. Treat each guy like a big lovable stuffed teddy bear - smile and laugh and strike up conversation and then leave it at that. If they are interested they will pursue - it also doesn't hurt to leave your phone number if you have the opportunity.
Think NUMBERS girl - the more you get out and meet and talk to - the more your chances are for one to stick and really like you and want you.
Sounds like you are off to a good start - and I agree with what Mark and Alison say.