Meanings?

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Registered: 11-02-2007
Meanings?
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Fri, 11-02-2007 - 3:40pm

Ok-Here's the problem-


Been on a date with a fitness trainer and we have talked alot at the gym as well as a few times on the phone.


Halloween night he called me at 1AM and asked me to come over (!) and call him. Well of course, I did not call back, was in

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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: lifelvr20
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 5:27pm

Hmmm. Does sounds like a booty call or else he was having a few drinks and just got thinking about you and called. I would wonder about the intentions of someone who calls at that hour.


My advice (if you're into him) is to tell his sorry but you couldn't call back at that hour. It's just too late for you. That should give him the message that you're not a booty call kinda gal. If he is interested in an actual date or getting to know you better then it leaves the door open for him to suggest getting together at an earlier hour. You could call him or just wait till you see him at the gym.


Good luck!


~Pacific~

~Pacific~
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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: lifelvr20
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 6:11pm

1 A.M. call could be a booty call... but maybe since it was Halloween he thought perhaps you were at a party...or yes, he had a couple drinks and drunk dialed you...

If i were going to ask, i'd say, "i saw that i missed your call at 1 am... were you at a party?" or "What was that about?" Most times the guy replies with either the truth or an excuse... but if you are curious, i say, ask him. There's no harm in that...

I usually don't ask in an accusative tone, but that's just me....

Loonybunny

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: lifelvr20
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 8:34pm

Sounds like he was looking for a little "action"...


I agree with the others that you should ask what he was up to- like Loony suggested, ask if he was at a party... and make it CLEAR that if will NOT get an answer if he calls that late.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: lifelvr20
Sat, 11-03-2007 - 7:34am

Hi lifelvr20 and welcome!

The others have given great advice as always. I say don't put too much time and energy into him unless he asks you out on a formal date. Calling that late for the first contact is sort of "not impressive" in my book. I would consider it a booty call or drunk dialing. Might be good to clarify as the others have suggested.

But I don't think you should dwell on him - and especially if you have a lot of interest. I think you should keep yourself out there and keep on meeting and dating new people until you find someone who you really like who is really into you and wants to impress you.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: lifelvr20
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 12:12pm
1AM phone calls are NOT a good sign. If you truly feel this guy is a good guy, I'd give him ONE more chance. He may have had a few drinks & stupidly called. & now is embarassed.

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Registered: 11-02-2007
In reply to: lifelvr20
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 7:55am

Well I went to the gym Friday afternoon like I always do and he acted like he did not call so I asked him why he called at 1AM and why he thought I would answer. Well he was embarassed and said he was pretty drunk and apologized and admitted that he was thinking of me but he was not really thinking. Anyway, he asked me out for a date on Saturday night and it was very nice. He is a "confirmed bachelor" basically but he is a great guy to go out with for fun now and then. I definitely don't see long term with him since he doesnt seem to want to grow up. But he definitely knows I don't take calls at 1AM now. LOL


Thanks for all your help everyone!