Meeting BF's teenage son the first time?
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|Sun, 07-11-2010 - 11:39pm|
Hi everyone...I'm very new here to the boards and I'd like some opinions on meeting my boyfriend's teenage son for the first time.
We've known each other a year, and have been dating for about 6 months, and are obviously exclusive with each other. We've both been wanting to take things slow, but tonight on the phone he and his son asked if I'd like to come by to a movie next time he will have him. My BF has 50/50 custody, but often has his son more often as his mom is very unstable and often asks my BF to take their son.
So, recently, about a month ago, my BF introduced the idea to his son that he was dating me and things were moving along. The son was receptive, and happy for his dad. I guess I should say his son's age! Duh. He's 12, gonna be 13 in a few weeks. He and his dad are very close, and that's plainly obvious to me.
I am just very nervous! I have my own kids, but they're younger. 10 and 8. I'm comfortable around kids, but...this is the first relationship I've been in with a man, post-divorce, who has children. I'm just a bit nervous, as obviously I've not had to meet any BF's kids before! :)
The son was pretty excited on the phone when my BF asked me. Evidently he's been bugging his dad to meet me. Which makes me feel better, as at least he's not already resistant to the fact his dad is dating. So in the background, I could hear him asking "Did she say yes?" (to the movie), and when my BF said yes, I heard him just smiling and saying "Yes!" and stuff. It was actually kind of cute. lol
I have not been able to find much today on introducing kids to new dating partners. Obviously other than the "make sure it's serious", etc. I am painfully aware that kids get attached, and then can be hurt all over again if the parent and GF/BF break up. I want to do things the right way, and I figured many here may have some advice. He has not meet my children yet either, though my kids have been asking also (they have known for a few weeks that we're dating and getting serious).
Anyhow...any tips for me would be very welcome. Good, bad, positive/negative, bring it on. I'd love to hear some advice!