Meeting friends...

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Meeting friends...
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 4:27am

Hi all,


I've wrote on here before asking what to do about

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 8:56am

"That seems like a lot of sacrifice on my part, and nothing in return."

YES - you hit the nail on the head. Honey, the more you are with him, the more he is going to make you feel bad about yourself. He is selfish and is not putting your best interest forward, never mind that you have a kid. No matter what you do to please him it is never going to be enough.

You won't be lonely if you dump him. Sure, you might miss him calling and doing some stuff. But I am quite positive that the more time that passes after the dump is the better you feel about the decision. And you know what? The faster you do this is the faster you will meet someone who is delighted to be in your presence and who respect you and all you do and think and feel.

You are so smart and so lucky to get to live with your parents to enjoy their company with your little one and be in your life and save your money.

Put yourself first! Because he is not going to. He is hideous to demand that you move out and take on that expense so he can crash at your place. That shows he is only worried about one thing.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:01am
Sorry - forgot to add - once you are not with him you will find all sorts of things to do and meet a lot of new friends because you will have the time and the energy and be open to that. It just happens on its own. You can meet them at the gym, in a class, through church, your neighbors, the park, your kids activities, etc. Just be out and about doing what you like.
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:11am

Here's something I wrote for a different board that might give you some ideas on where to meet a group of folks to 'do stuff' with:


~s~


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Registered: 04-08-2003
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:28am

I LOVE MEETUPS!!!!!!!! That is how I met ALL of my new friends!


I have met so many great friends and people. I'm in all kinds. I

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Registered: 02-13-2008
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 10:52am
I love meetup too. It is a great thing for everyone so far that I have met. I run a dog group with tons of members and they are by and large WONDERFUL people and we have all really truly gotten to know one another.
I actually have to send one of the DOGS in my group a valentine today because I am kinda secretly in love with him. Dont tell bf....
I have attached his pic so you can understand.
I also want to second what west said. Once you have dropped the stress and energy draining components of being with this guy - you will have so much more time and positive energy. It just starts to help everywhere from the inside out. I think there are always a few rough weeks and then you find yourself just meeting new people and doing more things because you are finally free of the stress.
Good luck to you!
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Registered: 12-16-2004
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 12:26pm

Thanks for the meetup idea!!!!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:07pm

You're killing me with the cute dog pictures!


~Pacific~
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Registered: 12-16-2004
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 4:57pm
Ohhhh....I meant to say how ADORABLE that pic of the Mastiffs are, OMG!!!!!
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Registered: 02-13-2008
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 5:11pm
I forgot to mention that the smaller mastiff in the back is mine and that is my son Luc there too. Our mastiff is only a year and a half and the bigger one is 3 now. They grow for 3 years so we are still waiting to find out how big our big guy will get. Glad you liked the photo:)