Men are from Hell Update

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Men are from Hell Update
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 1:01pm

OK-


I'm 50 percent

~Pacific~
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 2:11pm
Yeah the whole thing is insane.
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 2:27pm

God! Your post about his ex

~Pacific~
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 2:32pm

But Pacs... just how secure has BE left you feeling lately?


Good question, Shrimps. I was just telling a friend the other day that holding on to BE is like riding a wild horse. It would be scary to fall off not knowing how bad the fall will hurt, but scary being on his back being unable to "tame" him and walk the quiet walk into the sunset. So it's like staying on the wild ride hoping he will stop bucking or jump off and let him go running into the wild.


I know, wierd analogy.

~Pacific~
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 2:34pm
I've wondered the same thing about him Pacs.
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 5:14pm

I think you can MAKE those things happen a lot easier than you can MAKE a relationship with him happen - and have a lot more to show for it. Part of the security may be a false thing in your head?

I DO understand what you mean - because it is scary to be a single parent and sweating the bills. That is a huge responsibility and unsettling at best on most days.

I don't know - I hope I don't upset you - but I have this feeling that he may not be the best thing for you - because you are always so nice - and he means well and he does appreciate you - but I wonder if he is enough and if it could be good in the long run.

Maybe you just need more time to you so you can make the very best decision for you?

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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 5:21pm
I really hope you are not considering working things out with BE. You deserve alot better. Do you really want to continue with the ongoing drama? He is NOT going to change and you can't change him. Don't ever believe what someone says. Believe what they do. You deserve someone who respects you. If he is talking to broom hilda have you ever considered that he might be talking to other women?
Sorry to be blunt, but a good/healthy relationship does not play out like the one you and BE have. I know it is hard to start over. BTDT and you CAN do it. As far as financial stability goes, I have found that peace of mind is PRICELESS.
Stephanie


Edited 6/3/2008 5:22 pm ET by texas_mom1991
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 5:29pm

Maybe you just need more time to you so you can make the very best decision for you?


I agree with you. And

~Pacific~
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 5:35pm
GIRLFRIEND!!!!
 
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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 6:57pm

As I see it, the underlying

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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 8:08pm

Dang, Soonee... I couldn't have put it any better.


((((((((((Pacific))))))))))) it's not easy either way. But you have to do what's right for YOU, either way.


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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