I totally hear you about the height thing- if *we* are fairly tall as women, don't they think we're going to notice when we're taller than them if we meet? Men can be pretty dumb sometimes. (Yet another thing to like about J- he's easily six inches taller than me- no small feat!)
As far as no one else on your horizon, I think that's all right for now. You have an amazingly busy life, and you hold it all together so well. But I think for me, having an occasional lull would be welcomed if I were in your shoes.
Have fun, and of course we want to be updated on the Hottie and on LawnBoy!
It's cool that you are going to "see" Mr Young Hot Bod again ;o)
I think you have a great outlook on everything, and I am very impressed about your attitude towards Carlos. I was skeptical about you wanting to remain friends with him, knowing how you had felt for him, but it seems like it has worked out really well for you both. Of course you will miss him for a while still, but isn't it amazing how we forget people when someone new and fabulous whisks us off our feet? I'm expecting to hear a "Carlos who?" sometime soon...
Like Moody, I am amazed at how much you manage to fit into one day! My friends often comment on how busy I am, but you make me look like a couch potato!
Sorry to hear you were disappointed. It sounds like he stretched the truth about his height - or maybe when he measured he was wearing bigger shoes?
At least he was not a whole lot shorter. But you do have a right to your opinion about height. I know I would prefer someone taller, but would go to my same height as okay, too. I am not sure how I would feel about shorter. I only went on one blind date with a shorter guy and we were not a match at all anyway. I remember that guy was VERY negative. UGH. I wanted to shake him and ask if he had ANYTHING good to say about his life or life in general.
Anyway, at least you are getting out there.
I don't think you should shoot to find someone LIKE Carlos - because the next one will be different - and will still have a lot of things you like - maybe more. The reason I say this is because I have that tendency, too. To want someone the same as one I liked before. But then in time I forget and have more of an open mind. I know you will, too.
I refuse to go out with a man who is shorter than I am! But at a "shrimpy" 5'1"- I'd think that a man WOULD be considered "too short" by most people at that height!
Height never really was a tough issue to me, since I am so short. But I remember when I used to have 'standards' of 5'10" or taller- and wouldn't give any OLD a response if they were shorter than that. BAD MOVE! It wasn't until I dropped those standards down that I "found" Hiker, who is about 5'7" or 8". And I don't think he is too short for me. But if you'd have asked me in my 20's, I'd have written Hiker off for being "too short" and not given him a chance. I was so stupid back then for having such a standard...
I dropped my OLD standards because my family and I had gone on a trip to CA several yrs ago, and visited with some family friends while there. And I noticed that the man in the couple was short! Like MY HEIGHT kind of short! (They are Asian.) But the couple was a SUPER couple, with all the love and companionship anyone would want, have been married for YEARS, and they are just plain FUN people to visit. We see them each time we're out there, and I never paid attention to his height til that year. And I realized that summer too- that I'd never ever noticed just how short he really was until that trip... because I always just noticed how great they were as people. And I never realized either- that he is shorter than she is. But if she "nixed" him because of his height, she'd have missed out on having a great husband and partner all these years!
Of course, because *I* am so short, it is rather hard-pressed for me to find a man who is shorter than I am... but I did drop my 5'10"-or-taller standard after that light bulb came on. It was when a man's height came off the 'must-have' list because I realized that just being tall doesn't make a man a great catch, just as being short doesn't make him a bad one.
And that said... I also don't like it when men lie about their height on their profiles. Just like I don't like them lying about ANYTHING else there. Tell the truth, men!!! That's the only way you can find someone who might like you FOR WHO YOU ARE! But I guess men can be as sensitive about height as women can be about weight. And men can be as sensitive about "length" as women can be about boob size.
Like Shrimpy, I'm 5'1" so height isn't too much of an issue for me, yet I do prefer my man to be 5'9" and up but I won't discredit anyone based on height. If I were taller though, it would probably be an issue. I can't imagine dating someone shorter than me.
At 5'9", it has always been a challenge for me to find men who are taller than I am- especially since I consistently wear shoes with at least a three inch heel. If he's as tall as I am in my shoes, he's doing pretty good- but at that point, he's 6 feet tall!
I have dated men who were my height or an inch shorter- in fact, my last boyfriend was an inch shorter than I was. I don't know that the height bothered him, but we had enough issues without worrying about our differences in appearance. Also, I think for me the major downfall is that shorter men seem to be intimidated by my height, so even if I were okay with being taller than he was, the guy is usually put off by it.
By the way, funnyguy is at least 6'3"- when I'm not wearing shoes, I can't believe how tall he is, since he is taller than me WITH them on. He enjoys the fact that he doesn't have to stoop, I enjoy the fact that my tippy toes are being exercized.
All this talk about height made me remember something funny from this past weekend. One of my brothers came to town to visit, and brought his new girlfriend so she could meet everyone. And he is about 2 inches taller than she is when they are standing. But when they sit down, because she is so long-waisted, she ends up about 2 inches taller than he is! They said that people are always commenting on that, and it's just funny/odd that it works that way for them! So in all the photos where they are sitting, she looks taller. But in all the photos where they are standing, he is taller! lol
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I totally hear you about the height thing- if *we* are fairly tall as women, don't they think we're going to notice when we're taller than them if we meet? Men can be pretty dumb sometimes. (Yet another thing to like about J- he's easily six inches taller than me- no small feat!)
As far as no one else on your horizon, I think that's all right for now. You have an amazingly busy life, and you hold it all together so well. But I think for me, having an occasional lull would be welcomed if I were in your shoes.
Have fun, and of course we want to be updated on the Hottie and on LawnBoy!
Moody, tired thinking about all that you do
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It's cool that you are going to "see" Mr Young Hot Bod again ;o)
I think you have a great outlook on everything, and I am very impressed about your attitude towards Carlos. I was skeptical about you wanting to remain friends with him, knowing how you had felt for him, but it seems like it has worked out really well for you both. Of course you will miss him for a while still, but isn't it amazing how we forget people when someone new and fabulous whisks us off our feet? I'm expecting to hear a "Carlos who?" sometime soon...
Like Moody, I am amazed at how much you manage to fit into one day! My friends often comment on how busy I am, but you make me look like a couch potato!
Clem xx
Sorry to hear you were disappointed. It sounds like he stretched the truth about his height - or maybe when he measured he was wearing bigger shoes?
At least he was not a whole lot shorter. But you do have a right to your opinion about height. I know I would prefer someone taller, but would go to my same height as okay, too. I am not sure how I would feel about shorter. I only went on one blind date with a shorter guy and we were not a match at all anyway. I remember that guy was VERY negative. UGH. I wanted to shake him and ask if he had ANYTHING good to say about his life or life in general.
Anyway, at least you are getting out there.
I don't think you should shoot to find someone LIKE Carlos - because the next one will be different - and will still have a lot of things you like - maybe more. The reason I say this is because I have that tendency, too. To want someone the same as one I liked before. But then in time I forget and have more of an open mind. I know you will, too.
I refuse to go out with a man who is shorter than I am! But at a "shrimpy" 5'1"- I'd think that a man WOULD be considered "too short" by most people at that height!
Height never really was a tough issue to me, since I am so short. But I remember when I used to have 'standards' of 5'10" or taller- and wouldn't give any OLD a response if they were shorter than that. BAD MOVE! It wasn't until I dropped those standards down that I "found" Hiker, who is about 5'7" or 8". And I don't think he is too short for me. But if you'd have asked me in my 20's, I'd have written Hiker off for being "too short" and not given him a chance. I was so stupid back then for having such a standard...
I dropped my OLD standards because my family and I had gone on a trip to CA several yrs ago, and visited with some family friends while there. And I noticed that the man in the couple was short! Like MY HEIGHT kind of short! (They are Asian.) But the couple was a SUPER couple, with all the love and companionship anyone would want, have been married for YEARS, and they are just plain FUN people to visit. We see them each time we're out there, and I never paid attention to his height til that year. And I realized that summer too- that I'd never ever noticed just how short he really was until that trip... because I always just noticed how great they were as people. And I never realized either- that he is shorter than she is. But if she "nixed" him because of his height, she'd have missed out on having a great husband and partner all these years!
Of course, because *I* am so short, it is rather hard-pressed for me to find a man who is shorter than I am... but I did drop my 5'10"-or-taller standard after that light bulb came on. It was when a man's height came off the 'must-have' list because I realized that just being tall doesn't make a man a great catch, just as being short doesn't make him a bad one.
And that said... I also don't like it when men lie about their height on their profiles. Just like I don't like them lying about ANYTHING else there. Tell the truth, men!!! That's the only way you can find someone who might like you FOR WHO YOU ARE! But I guess men can be as sensitive about height as women can be about weight. And men can be as sensitive about "length" as women can be about boob size.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Aha - you are lucky you are so short! I never realized you were short - but I guess that is why you pick your screen name?
The reason I say lucky is because you can wear heels and not feel like a tower and all the guys are taller than you!!
I am 5'8" so that eliminates a lot of guys - they really have to be my height or taller to be happy.
Like Shrimpy, I'm 5'1" so height isn't too much of an issue for me, yet I do prefer my man to be 5'9" and up but I won't discredit anyone based on height. If I were taller though, it would probably be an issue. I can't imagine dating someone shorter than me.
~Dani~
I am 5'8" so that eliminates a lot of guys - they really have to be my height or taller to be happy.
I totally agree - although I'm just a smidgeon shorter.
At 5'9", it has always been a challenge for me to find men who are taller than I am- especially since I consistently wear shoes with at least a three inch heel. If he's as tall as I am in my shoes, he's doing pretty good- but at that point, he's 6 feet tall!
I have dated men who were my height or an inch shorter- in fact, my last boyfriend was an inch shorter than I was. I don't know that the height bothered him, but we had enough issues without worrying about our differences in appearance. Also, I think for me the major downfall is that shorter men seem to be intimidated by my height, so even if I were okay with being taller than he was, the guy is usually put off by it.
By the way, funnyguy is at least 6'3"- when I'm not wearing shoes, I can't believe how tall he is, since he is taller than me WITH them on. He enjoys the fact that he doesn't have to stoop, I enjoy the fact that my tippy toes are being exercized.
Moody, standing tall
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All this talk about height made me remember something funny from this past weekend. One of my brothers came to town to visit, and brought his new girlfriend so she could meet everyone. And he is about 2 inches taller than she is when they are standing. But when they sit down, because she is so long-waisted, she ends up about 2 inches taller than he is! They said that people are always commenting on that, and it's just funny/odd that it works that way for them! So in all the photos where they are sitting, she looks taller. But in all the photos where they are standing, he is taller! lol
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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