Met J today

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Met J today
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 9:31pm
So we've been talking on the phone and texting since last sunday, and i wasn't going to be able to see him until friday, because i have Damian with me...well we get along really really good, i mean we think alike, act alike, we have so many things in common it's unreal, we see eye to eye on a lot of things, and I have no complaints....and usually i'm like yeah he's this and this, but there is one thing i don't like, but wit J, it's nothing like that, I really have no complaints....so I told him I was going to the mall today, and he asked if he could meet me up, I had Damian, and so I said I didn't know, because we both are so confident that we've hit it off, and we're going to be together..but is it ok to bring Damian into it so soon, on the first meeting...so I followed my gut, and he went, we had a good time, he even helped out with Damian he took it upon himself and helped out, and took over, like we've been together forever, it's so weird......We have plans for friday, we were going to have lunch and spend time together before he goes in to work, and on saturday we have plans, after i get out of work, we're going to see united 93, eat, and we'll see what we do afterwards........Hm...One thing, Damian was really good with the whole situation until we said our good byes he leaned in and kissed me and Damian got jealous!!! I didn't think he could see he was in his car seat, we're taller than my little car, but he said STOP IT MOMMY STOP IT.....and I felt so bad, so yes no more kissing infront of him, I felt so guilty, The little look on his face like he was going to cry, and he looked so hurt, and then when i got in the car he said no mommy no, and tried hitting me, this is new to all of us, so we'll see what happens, that was the only thing

 

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In reply to: roxanne2020
Tue, 05-02-2006 - 11:51pm

Well, I'm glad the meeting went well! Sometimes we have to take the risk of letting our children meet the guys we date because it's nice to see how they will respond to them.

As for Damian's reaction, he could have been jealous or he could have been wanting the same attention from J that you got, the affection at the end of the visit. I would recommend that you do keep things toned down in front of him for the next little while. You need to get him used to seeing J around, so that he doesn't get upset at the attention you get from him.

Have fun on your date friday, and let us know how things go!




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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: roxanne2020
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 6:06am
Congrats on finding J - keep us posted. It is sweet that he is helping you with Damian. I agree with your assessment that you will go a little slower with the kissing in front of Damian - just get Damian used to having J around - and then ease him into it. Explain that Damian is your friend. Who would think that such a young one would pick up on that - in a way that is very cute.
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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: roxanne2020
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 1:03pm

Congrats on the first meeting going so well! I agree that if it makes you feel guilty, you shouldn't get "physical" in front of Damian, or at least so quickly, but make sure you don't give up your life, either.

Damian will get used to it. Just give him time, and give yourself time, too. I think the first time Catie saw my ex kiss me, she was jealous, but it wasn't jealousy of me giving him attention, as I thought, it was him giving me attention- she wanted his attention, not mine. So, kids can be funny sometimes.

Have a good time with J this weekend, and let us know how it goes!


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