Met up with MM

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Met up with MM
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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 4:21am

at meetup... But geez, i wish i knew what the deal was... Tonight i felt a strong something. Patience is NOT easy.


I show up late every time because i work nights. This time the place

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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 9:02am

Patience is not my virtue either. Ask the girls youre hanging with if they sense if he is interested in you. I think you should trust your instinct. But what if he is interested and isnt sure when to make the move or is waiting for you to show interest too? Do you flirt with him? Subtle flirts make be all it takes.

Laurie

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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 10:04am

thanks for the tips... i thought my emails to him were a good hint. maybe not enough. Also, i think i "flirted" with him in person more before the emails. I may have inadverdently given him not-interested body language signals lately. Like not making as much eye contact.... I've been afraid of rejection. Maybe he's afraid of the same thing?


I think asking some of the girls, who i trust like Minnie, is a good idea.


thanks again.


i don't know why it feels like brain surgery with this one. d'oh. He seems like a nice guy, though.


One thing i like about these meetups (and i like many things) is hanging as friends with guys. Last night the subject was text messages and technology. Ya know, the difference between 10 yrs ago when ya left a message on voice mail and didn't expect to get a call back for a couple days. Now, ya expect an instant response or ya start to get worried. MM said that... and another guy was agreeing. hmmmm was he refering to my emails?


LB

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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 10:40am
Ok dear, we all know what a shy, wallflower I am and how I believe a womans place is behind her man and in the kitchen barefoot..................NOT!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 10:58am

In theory that's sounds like a good idea... BUT.... I like our friendship and if i ask him out, then won't meetups be awkward instead of fun... eeeeks. Maybe i'm just too chicken.


What does everyone think?.... wait on him until he's ready to ask me? maybe that day never comes and he only sees me as a friend. i guess i'd be okay with that too. Or do as soccermom suggests and ask him out? eeeks.


what if he's trying to get up the nerve to ask me out? i don't want to steal his thunder... or make him look like a whimp for not asking. maybe i'm not his type even though i feel those vibes... who knows.


sorry to drive you all crazy ... it's like a bad teen drama at this point. d'oh

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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 11:09am
Ok my point is how can you truely enjoy your "friendship" if you have these underlying feelings or vibes for him?
 
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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 11:33pm

Sometimes we like flirting with someone, but would never actually want more with the person for one reason or another... so let time tell with this one and see what happens. While most guys will ask a woman out when they're interested, some are really nervous about rejection and are waiting for a clear "go ahead" signal from the woman before asking.

It's been a few weeks now of hanging out with the group and he hasn't asked you yet... so you have to decide if you're going to accept that he's not interested or you're going to say something like, "so MM, when you going to ask me for coffee?" and see if he bites...

Keep us posted.

The boy

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In reply to: loonybunny
Sun, 09-14-2008 - 2:35pm

aye ya... kinda unsure ... i'm blaming it on the tequila.


So, here's my update from another meetup. MM was double booked with another group BUT he showed up to mine. He said he changed his mind and wanted to hang out with my group instead. We saw a local cover band and played darts. The darts were the best part! The band was only so-so.


A few other people were having game night at their place. So 9 of us decided to caravan over to their house and join em. What a party it was... with tequila. I paced myself and only had 2 shots... but it still made for an interesting night.


We played "Men are from mars and women are from venus" the game. Basically the game asked questions to see if the guys understood women and vice versa.... like asking the women "what turns a man on most a)sight b) scent or c) voice" then you compare the guys answer with the women and see if we guess correctly what they would say, ect. Made for some interesting discussions.... i think the men even learned something. and vice versa. Although some questions felt like therapy...lol


When the party was essentially over... 3 of us decided it was best not to drive home. i was getting sleepy and MM picked me up. Yes, he carried me ...*big grin* ...over to the couch. Nothing really happened except that we slept next to each other. He did kiss me on the forehead and he was rubbing my